Why do I never share my baby in my friend circle? After reading this, you won’t dare anymore

A while ago, an old classmate whom Rui’s mother hadn’t contacted for many years added me on WeChat. I planned to chat first, but the first thing my classmate asked when he came up was: \”You and your husband have been married for so many years, and you haven\’t had a child yet?\” I was confused by her question, so I quickly replied: \”We Jia Ruirui is already in the fourth grade of elementary school.\” The old classmate explained to me with a sigh of relief: \”I took a look at your circle of friends. It contains either the daily life of you and your husband, or some of your usual work. In the content, I haven’t seen any photos of my children, so I just assumed that you two haven’t had children yet.” My classmates may not have looked at my friend circle from a long time ago, but I have also posted pictures of my children, but only rarely. Friends who are familiar with me know that I am not the kind of mother who likes to show off her children. It’s not that I don’t have time or that I don’t love my children enough. It’s just that after thinking about the following four points, I feel that it doesn’t matter whether I do or not. Do mothers have the same thoughts as me? For the safety of children, today’s circle of friends is no longer just acquaintances, but also many strangers who are unfamiliar or even unknown. We have no idea whether there are bad people with evil intentions inside. I once saw a piece of news that said a human trafficker pieced together the child\’s name, school, and various places he frequented based on the information posted by the child\’s parents online. Then one day, the child’s mother posted a message on WeChat Moments saying: My baby has really grown up and can go home alone. Originally, the mother might have wanted to show off that she didn\’t have to worry about her child, but she didn\’t expect that such a circle of friends would give traffickers an opportunity. On that day, the trafficker pretended to be a friend of the child\’s mother and picked up the child… Fortunately, the case was solved soon after. When the mother asked the child: \”Didn\’t I tell you not to follow strangers casually?\” the child said with an aggrieved look: \”But he doesn\’t look like a stranger. He knows my life very well.\” When the police interrogated the trafficker At the time, he said he knew the target\’s home address, workplace, and vacation plans. It only takes them an hour to get detailed information about a family through a mother\’s circle of friends or Weibo, including the place of residence, the child\’s name, birthday, and the place where they take the child to play every week. So you see, your little happiness that you inadvertently posted, in the eyes of a caring person, can understand your entire life circle in just one hour. It is really terrible. If parents still want to post on WeChat Moments and record their children’s growth, then be careful not to reveal their children’s itineraries, play addresses, etc. You can add some simple text, such as “Happy and wonderful day!” “The child gave me something again” A surprise\” without specific information. No one really likes your child. \”You gave birth to your child, no matter how you look at it.\” This is definitely what the mother said. Parents will definitely like their children more and more the more they look at them, otherwise it would not be denying their own genes. Then, parents take it for granted that since my child is so cute, other people will also like it. In fact, no one will really care about your child except your own family and your familiar friends. Those likes and complimentsThe comments are nothing more than a \”little effort\”. What\’s more, some people will judge your children. I once heard a friend complain to me about another friend\’s child: \”Have you looked at whose circle of friends? Her children are swiping the screen every day. The key is that I don\’t think there\’s anything wrong with that child.\” It\’s so cute, it feels like killing me when I cry.\” After finishing speaking, she kept pouting. I read a sentence that says: When you look at your children, how others look at your children is actually the difference between artistic photos and ID photos. If we show off our children too much, it is very likely that we will blind our eyes and prevent ourselves from seeing the shortcomings of our children, which will make us pamper our children even more. Little do we know that our children may have become \”naughty children\” in the eyes of others. Maybe it was vanity at work. During the May Day holiday that just ended, Rui’s mother stayed at home, but she seemed to have traveled around the world because she had an omnipotent circle of friends. Many people posted happy photos of their outings on their WeChat Moments, which made Rui\’s mother extremely envious. But then I heard a friend say: \”Oh, don\’t look at those photos posted in WeChat Moments. They are all lies. In fact, I am exhausted! I swear I will never go out on vacation again.\” You see, originally I thought my life was pretty good, but after seeing the life in other people\’s circle of friends, I began to doubt my life. The same goes for posting babies on Moments. \”The baby has learned to play the piano and is immersed in wonderful music every day. I am so happy~\” \”The baby is reading and studying very seriously. It is the original English version~kkk\” \”The baby washed the mother\’s feet today. I really feel… All worries are gone, and mom is the happiest person in the world~\”…After reading these beautiful pictures in the circle of friends, I turned to look at my own children. Let alone reading, it was difficult to sit quietly for a while; His mother washes his feet. Every day, she serves him like a little emperor… In contrast, it is easy for parents to ignore their children\’s strengths and seize on their children\’s shortcomings. In fact, what everyone posts in their circle of friends may not be the normal state of their lives. Your baby has learned to play the piano, have you ever thought about the noise during the previous learning process? The baby is reading the original English book carefully, but can he really understand it? Does he really like watching it? Are you sure that washing your mother\’s feet is not a task assigned by the teacher? Do you really believe that a child can have this kind of awareness? So, just live your own small life well, don\’t let other people\’s lives affect your own rhythm, and don\’t easily use your vanity to make other people\’s small lives difficult. Once you have a child, you should also have your own life circle. There is a joke that says: The biggest difference after a woman becomes a mother is that she no longer shows off herself in her circle of friends, but instead posts about her children. I often see a mother flooding the screen with photos or short videos of her children. Although it does not affect anything, the message behind it seems to say: My life revolves around my children; I only see children in my world. This is a terrible thing. Rui Ma has emphasized many times that among all family relationships, the relationship between husband and wife is the first, and in the relationship between husband and wife, the wife still has to be herself in order to make the best use of the relationship.Marriage relationships stay fresh for a long time. So, after you have a child, you should try your best to have your own life circle. Even if you are posting photos of buying diapers for your child with your best friend, or a short video of changing diapers for your child with your husband, it is better than just showing your child. A picture of a person. This at least shows that in your life, you still have a husband, a best friend, and your own little life. Of course, everyone has a different opinion on sharing babies on WeChat Moments. You can not care what others think, or you can keep it private and appreciate it yourself. So here’s the question, what do you think about posting babies on WeChat Moments? Leave a message to Rui Ma in the comment area~