Why do I no longer believe in \”as long as the child is happy\”

How quickly do people change? A year ago, I was so impressed by the way my friend raised his baby that I wished I could immediately kneel down and kowtow to him. How chic this mother is, how happy it is to be her child. When she is free, she takes her children to travel around, eat, drink and have fun. As long as they gain experience, it will be fine. As for interest classes, study classes, etc. Go ahead. Within half a year, my views changed. Just last week, like other parents, I enrolled my child in an English enlightenment class. On the day of registration, the four floors of the training institution were packed with parents and children. Yes, I admit it, I am timid, and I am beginning to be like most parents. The most important reason why my concept has changed is that my child has grown up day by day, and my mother\’s mentality has also changed little by little. Why do parents listen to the lies of training instructors and willingly pay for it, sacrificing their children\’s play time and parents\’ rest time to squeeze into such a small space? I began to admire the training instructors. They have studied the psychology of parents so thoroughly. for example. The training instructor asked: \”When you send your child here now, do you want him to learn spoken English or take exams?\” The parent\’s answer: \”Of course he learns spoken English.\” Lecturer: \”When your child goes to school, if his exam scores are not good, Is the top priority for your children to learn spoken English or to take exams?\” There are differences among parents. The lecturer said: \”There is no need to argue. Those who choose spoken language must still have children in kindergarten, and those who choose exam-taking are already in elementary school.\” Everyone nodded in agreement. This is the true mentality of being a parent. The lecturer asked again: \”There are 5,000 people training with us now. I don\’t know how many training institutions there are in the city. When your children go to school, 90% of the children in the class have learned English, but your children have not. How can you Imagine what will happen to your child?\” As a parent, my heart hurts. My child will have low self-esteem and cannot keep up with the progress. What should I do? Let\’s learn in advance. This is the ability of the lecturer, but from the perspective of parents, most parents who sign up their children are not just brainwashed by the training lecturer for just half an hour, but have such plans before coming. After all, people in their thirties are not so easy to fool. Let me talk about my change of mentality. Last year, my friend\’s child entered primary school, and his expression changed obviously. The happy and confident face before had a hint of worry. Of course, my friend still believes in her educational views and does not want her children to have good grades and enjoy a happy time. But as soon as he goes to school, certain aspects of the child\’s condition show up. I have not received much restraint and cannot persist in a class; I have not received enlightenment and need to learn from scratch, and there is a certain gap with other children in the class; I have no concept of learning. In the words of my friends, I am not interested in anything except learning; no Reading habits, slow understanding of test paper requirements. My friend does not force his children like other parents, but children who have been strong since childhood also feel pressure from other children. Parents are also feeling the pressure. My friend has been talked to alone by the teacher several times, and she has been told openly and secretly that her children need more attention from their parents. Friends began to understand,This is not something she can insist on alone. She can continue to insist on her point of view, but the child cannot, unless the child does not go to school and she keeps taking care of it herself. She knew that wasn\’t realistic. I watched a clip from \”Where Are We Going, Dad 2\”. Several children were shopping in supermarkets abroad. Huang Lei\’s daughter Huang Duoduo spoke fluent English and could communicate with foreigners without any barriers. She seemed to be 7 years old at that time. Seeing this, I, who have studied English for more than ten years and still can\’t understand what foreigners say and dare not speak, felt extremely ashamed. Who wouldn\’t want to have such a smart and versatile child. At the same age, one plays in the mud and the other receives education. It is not difficult to imagine that the future of the two children will be different. As ordinary people, we may not want our children to be rich in the future, but we also hope that they can live an ordinary and happy life. Even with such a small wish, if we don’t work hard and train him from an early age, it will be difficult for us to achieve our wishes. Think about our own growth experience. We have passed through many obstacles all the way, surpassing some classmates in elementary school, surpassing some classmates in middle school, surpassing some classmates in university, surpassing some colleagues in work, and then we can barely live an ordinary life. The reason is that children do not live in a vacuum, and resources are not infinite. If you want to live an ordinary life, you have to kill many people. And many of those who have been dropped by PK cannot even live an ordinary life. This is our worry. So, I gave up and began to work hard to find a balance between my child\’s happiness and growth and progress, and try my best to give my child a happy and innocent childhood. But I no longer believe in \”as long as the child is happy.\” If I can promise him a happy childhood and give him a happy adulthood, then I will do it. If his happy childhood comes at the expense of an unhappy adulthood, then I will choose to make his childhood somewhat burdensome. We love our children because we want them to have a happy life, not just childhood, right? I comfort myself like this.