Why do lower-level parents like to play with mobile phones more?

Sometimes when walking on the road, the parents you see are no longer looking at their children cautiously, but more often holding their children in one hand and looking at them intently on their mobile phones. Yes, cell phone. I don’t know if you have noticed that in the past, the mobile phones we only used to make calls and send text messages have now even replaced the status of children, making more parents unknowingly become slaves of mobile phones and neglecting the care of their children. care. Moreover, more often than not, as long as you observe carefully, you will find that the lower the level of parents, the more they like to play with mobile phones. In today\’s urban life, you will find that more and more parents love mobile phones more than they care about their children. This phenomenon even occurs in many modern families. After work, a tired father comes home and is exhausted. On the trap sofa, he started scrolling through his phone non-stop, busy giving likes and comments to A, B, C and D. Mothers, on the other hand, are more interested in sharing every detail of their children’s lives in their circle of friends, receiving likes and comments from A, B, B, and D. On the contrary, the children have become the biggest neglect and embarrassment between the couple. So if you are curious, you may ask, why do lower-level parents like to play with mobile phones more? First of all, many parents have lost the motivation to learn. Many people even think that they don’t need to study after leaving campus, so what else can they do if they don’t play with mobile phones, computers or watch TV after work? On the contrary, this is the root cause of the low level of education in the entire family. Learning is a lifelong process, and the ocean of learning is endless. A parent who loves learning and is good at educating their children will not only show their children that they have a pious and humble attitude towards knowledge at all times, but also undoubtedly set a good example for their children. Secondly, many parents ignore their own role models. Parents are their children\’s first teachers. Many parents often ignore this point and think that teaching their children is the responsibility of the school teacher and has nothing to do with them. Many parents even rarely consider how I can be a good first teacher for my children in the future. If you are unqualified for this teacher\’s job, or if you don\’t become this teacher at all, this will be a lifelong regret for you. On the contrary, if you pay attention to it from the beginning, you will find that you will gain more than you imagined in the end. As the ancients said, what goes up leads to results. It exists in the middle and takes shape outside. To test the effectiveness of a child\’s education, just look at his parents. Children always follow their example. Whatever their parents like to do, their children will definitely learn to imitate it. This is the innate nature of children. A pair of parents who only know how to play and be lazy, of course, their children will only learn the bad habits of being inactive and indolent. For a pair of parents who are diligent, down-to-earth and progressive, their children will definitely learn a positive attitude. A far-sighted and responsible parent will be careful about what he says and does in front of his children, and always pay attention to his own words and deeds. This is responsible for the growth and future of the child, as well as self-sufficiency and self-respect as a parent. Finally, many parents do not put their children on an equal footing. Many parents will think that since I am an adult and you are a child, you should listen to me as a matter of course and whatever I say is what I say. So you can always find that many parents have this problem. They watch movies every day.You watch and play with mobile phones, but you want your children to study hard and study hard; you muddle along, but you want your children to work hard and get ahead; you make a mess of your life, but you want your children to be proficient in everything. When children are born with such unequal concepts, how can you expect your children to be \”excellent\”? I didn’t work hard back then, so I placed my hope on the next generation’s rise and overtake. Mentally, I strictly required my children to study hard and put an end to all relaxation and entertainment. However, materially, I continued to indulge myself and play with my mobile phone all day long. , which in itself is the greatest injustice to children’s growth. And this kind of abnormal education did not get the best cause from the beginning, how can it get satisfactory results? In this world, the most touching love is called \”companionship\”, not when I am by your side but you are playing with your mobile phone. In this world, the most effective education is called \”teaching by words and deeds\”, rather than exposing your various bad habits to me. Being a parent is both an identity and a career. To be a qualified parent, you need to constantly learn and learn again and again, rather than indulge and indulge again and again. As Liu Zhenyun wrote in the novel \”Mobile Phone\”, mobile phones are originally for convenience. Without them, people are quite free. With it, people become kites. In the past, when there were no mobile phones, children were kites in the hearts of their parents. The children\’s laughter and crying affected every nerve of the parents all the time. But nowadays, mobile phones have made parents become involved kites. Every beep and vibration consumes the time parents and children spend together for no reason. It is undeniable that mobile phones have clearly become the enemy between parents and children. Some time ago, a 12-year-old girl in Hangzhou wrote a letter to her mother, accusing her mother of becoming grumpy because of playing on her mobile phone and lack of care for her younger brother. The girl\’s mother posted the letter on WeChat Moments, which aroused a lot of resonance. Many parents will say that adults use mobile phones for work and study. This reason may sound reasonable, but it is not. At the age when children are most eager for love and attention, many parents do not pay enough attention to their children. Instead, they spend most of their time on their mobile phones after work, which can easily cause harm to their children\’s growth. The reason why some children are not confident in speaking and doing things is because they were ignored when they were young. Parental neglect will make children feel that they are not good enough and not worthy of attention, which will affect the child\’s mental health. Over time, the child will gradually develop low self-esteem, and may even develop into self-loathing or even rebellion. Companionship is the best gift in a child\’s life. Many parents today seem to understand this truth, but they fail to do so. When growing up, children need their own space, and they also need their parents’ companionship and care. No matter how busy parents are at work, they should still find time to understand their children\’s psychological needs, guide their children to talk about their inner world and emotions, and wholeheartedly do some interactive parent-child activities with their children, so that their children can truly feel the care and trust of adults, and It’s not about using a cold mobile phone screen to erect a barrier between parents and children. A responsible parent will never carry a child all day longIt’s just a mobile phone, so you may miss more than just your child’s childhood. The mobile phone is a device that can accelerate people\’s emotional loneliness and thinking regression. When the young people of our generation live with mobile phones all day long, we inevitably find that we spend more time with our mobile phones than we spend with our parents. What’s more terrible is that the functions of mobile phones are so powerful that When we were young, we relied on our parents’ arms, but now we can only sleep alone with our mobile phones. A high-level parent should and must be well aware of the pros and cons of mobile phones, so he can calmly and appropriately handle and guide the relationship between his children and mobile phones. I once read a German article discussing family education and the use of mobile phones, which told such a case. My brother works in a computer game company in Singapore and is very familiar with the IT industry. He recently told me that the elementary school where the children of Silicon Valley managers go to has extremely strict rules about the use of cell phones and computers. The more successful their parents are in companies such as Apple, Google, Facebook, Microsoft, and Yahoo, the more wary they are of the stupidizing effect of electronic products on their children. I think this fact is worth recalling. I became strictly in charge when it came to cell phones. I think: First, parents must intervene as early as possible. Second, parents must set strict rules and not make exceptions, which can be fatal. Third, parents must be good role models for their children. A high-level parent will clearly and rationally analyze and judge what a reasonable distance should be between mobile phones and children, just like Dayu in ancient times when he controlled floods, \”it should be sparse but not blocked\”. Properly taking advantage of the situation, giving children more choices and learning objects, and distracting children will have better results than adults and children playing with mobile phones together. There are many things that parents and children can do. They can go mountain climbing to exercise and sharpen their children\’s limbs and minds. They can go sightseeing and observe the changes and richness of nature. They can even read and explore in the ocean of knowledge and stories. In this way The effect of coexistence is far greater than children watching adults play with mobile phones all day long. Being a parent is a rare life experience. After a child is born, if the parents neglect the child or leave the child to others due to work or other reasons, this is bound to become a lifelong regret for the parents. The most important thing in a person\’s life is to become a parent, because the experience of being a parent is more meaningful, more valuable, and more worth trying than other things. A high-level parent will not only give their children a good growth environment and attitude towards life, but also make them understand that they must be responsible for their own lives and must be a person who controls themselves. Only in this way can they control more freedom. and independence. Our parents often talk about being responsible for their children, but if they can\’t even handle and control such trivial matters as playing with mobile phones, how can they be responsible for their children? If you really want to be responsible for your child, then it is recommended that after reading this article, you turn off your mobile phone and go spend time with your child, even if you look at him quietly and listen to his unclear words, wait until you One day when you get old, you will find that there was such a wonderful and tender scene in your memory, instead of relying on your mobile phone to fill the holes and coldness in your memory..