Why do primary school students suffer from depression? After helping a friend choose a school, I finally figured it out…

Two days ago, a friend asked me about a very popular private school in Beijing. He said that his child wanted to transfer to another school, but he took the exam and did not do well. He asked me if I could help find someone. It’s hard to shirk it, so I can only ask the principal to find out the situation. He said that the papers were not finished yet and asked him to wait for the results. I received the news as soon as I got to work today. The principal said that he had looked at the children\’s entrance test scores and found that their scores were indeed unsatisfactory and the gap was still relatively large. Especially mathematics and English, the actual feelings of children may be different. If you want to go in the domestic direction, the study of the three subjects besides language and mathematics needs to be further strengthened… The expression is very euphemistic, but I understand what he means: academic The level is too weak and difficult to digest. Considering that some children have low starting points but strong learning ability, this school adopts layered teaching and can provide personalized assistance to students, so I asked: Isn\’t it possible that your school can\’t save weak students? He said that there are currently very few fifth-grade students, and there are only two classes, so objectively speaking, it is not very friendly to tiered teaching, with only two tiers. When a child transfers, there will be greater pressure on him because there is no suitable academic class. Academic development is only one of the many important elements in children\’s growth. We have always been cautious about whether to choose an environment with high academic pressure. However… the principal sent another message five minutes later. It was probably a difficult decision made after careful consideration: If it is your recommendation, then we can invite the parents to come over and have a chat. Ask the teacher to explain the assessment results to them in detail and give them some guidance and suggestions in mathematics and English. If there are changes after the summer vacation (mainly to see the child\’s growth and learning ability), consider giving him a chance. It’s not easy, brushing your face still shows results. But when I replied to my friend, I was conflicted – because judging from the evaluation results, the child\’s performance obviously did not reach the school\’s minimum. If she blindly introduced her child to a top school, it would be equivalent to pushing him into a pit of fire and being abused every day! The parents are satisfied, but the child will live a hard life from then on… Is this really good? Having been an education observer for more than ten years, I neither hate chicken babies nor despise lying flat: Individual differences are huge, each child has different needs, and the appropriate education is also very different – for example, if you have been sensitive to numbers since you were a child, If 6-year-old children who can read \”Historical Records\” are not provided with sufficient extracurricular educational resources and do not sign up for class, their development will definitely be delayed; but for those in elementary school who cannot sit still in the classroom and run around in class, He can fold planes in arithmetic. Even if this kind of kid is sent to Xicheng Experimental Second Primary School, he will still be a scumbag. If he is a Buddhist, he will grow up better… But there is no comparison between chickens and chickens. Different strategies. What I can\’t accept is the \”clinging mentality\” of education, which involves doing something even though you know it\’s impossible – you have to turn over the salted fish, cover the wall with mud, and forcibly carve patterns out of a piece of rotten wood; I always feel that even if the child is a hemp rope, as long as it is tied The price of hairy crabs is the same as that of crabs… He obviously raised a common baby, but he didn\’t hesitate to spend money to find a relationship, and he insisted on sending her to a so-called cow school where top students and top students gathered to be abused. An expert on junior high school promotion complained to me that he had seen enough of all the ways to get into a prestigious school – the first choice students would apply for extremely high prices, and he advised them not to apply. The top school only recruits 40 students in total, how could it be your turn?Where is the child? Our parents didn’t believe it and said that our daughter was lucky and lucky. We applied for the city’s top priority as our first choice, and then we dropped out. One time I met a kid who was really good. He had three good grades in three years, was a class leader, and had very good grades in school. I advised her, how about you go to Huaxia Girls’ High School? All are girls. The parents said, don’t go. How about trying a private one in Haidian? I won’t go to private schools either, so I will allocate seats. The allocation of school districts is a bit unreliable and it is easy to fall into the trap. My mother thinks that my child is so good that she doesn’t believe that he will be transferred to a bad school. As a result, after the assignment was completed, she came to me that afternoon and told me, Teacher, I regret it now. She was assigned to a particularly bad school. Is it too late to go to Huaxia Girls\’ High School now? How is this possible? It is impossible to go to a private school in Haidian. There is no turning back when choosing a school. There once was a particularly grumpy parent whose child was in sixth grade and was very busy when she was about to be promoted from primary school to junior high school. She failed to participate in an insignificant competition. As a result, other parents and teachers from the institution found out and blamed her. The parent felt extremely guilty. I said, you are already in sixth grade. It doesn’t matter if you miss one competition. It’s not important anymore. no. Not participating would be like owed a child a debt of gratitude. Think too much! Compared with the script of Qingbei\’s Counterattack, what you get is more likely to be \”it cost 1 million, and a child can\’t even reach a copy.\” Many parents worry that making mistakes in primary school primary school selection will delay their children\’s lives. But in fact, as long as you interfere less, your children will be more likely to live a good life. Because most parents hardly consider what their children need, and always feel that what they give is the best: they don’t study in schools that are not elite, and they compete in various competitions for DZ. I remember back when I still had special talents, a group of boys and girls took to the stage to do aerobics, and it was an unprecedented event… The children became tools and were thrown into the vigorous pipeline of getting into higher schools… They also said that it was all for their own good. Whose good is it for? Don’t you have any idea? The 2023 \”China Mental Health Blue Book\” shows that the detection rate of depression among high school students is 40%, that of junior high school students is 30%, and that of primary school students can reach 10%… In 2022, the detection rate of depression among Chinese under 18 years old Patients with depression accounted for 30.28% of the total number, 41% of whom had dropped out of school due to depression. The statistics are astonishing, but parents don’t feel it. Because in their view, top students always belong to their own family, and depression is always someone else\’s business. Going to higher school can make them insomniac, so what does it matter if their children are happy or not? This is very unfair to children. They were originally the core of education, but in the battle for higher education, they were ignored… Parents are too busy immersing themselves in their own fantasy of \”educational leap\” and moving themselves.