Why does a child still say \”Mom, hug me\” after being yelled at? After knowing the truth, you may be reluctant to let go.

When Niao Niao\’s mother was tutoring Niao Niao with her homework, she was very angry. At this time, the younger son came over to pester his mother to tell stories. In addition, the day\’s work was very hard, and the husband didn\’t care much about the two children. She was so angry that she couldn\’t help but yell at her youngest son, and even slapped Niao Niao twice. Her move shocked the two children, who started crying loudly at the same time. Moreover, the younger son stretched out his hands for his mother while crying. Seeing the two children like this, Niao Niao\’s mother felt very regretful, and she also understood that it was her fault. However, he couldn\’t control himself. Why did you reach out to your mother immediately? Could it be that they don\’t hold grudges? In every parent\’s child\’s young heart, you are their world and the only person they feel they can rely on. Especially before the age of 6, their mother is definitely the person they trust and rely on the most. Even if her mother beats them one second, they want to lie in her arms for comfort the next second. When a child is scolded by his mother, he is very scared inside. He is afraid of losing his mother, and his mind goes blank. Facing you with a ferocious face, the child\’s first reaction is to catch the mother and confirm that the mother still loves him. The older a child gets, the farther away from his parents he is. When he is a child, he will ask for a hug when he yells, but when he grows up, he will turn around and leave as soon as we yell at him. Sometimes I don\’t even say a word to my parents for several days, as if I\’m angry. Could it be that as the baby grows up, he no longer likes his parents? In fact, this is not the case. Before children are 6 years old, what they care about most is maintaining their relationship with their mother. Parents are their world. As children grow older, they become more independent. You have your own friends and small circle. Although they still love you, you are no longer in their world alone. Children at this stage already have a strong sense of self. If parents still treat their children by simply yelling and scolding, they are pushing them out of your world, and they are unconsciously doing so. After many people enter adolescence, due to psychological changes, they become less and less likely to chat and communicate with their parents. In the later stages, they basically cannot say a few words. Perhaps the main reason is that when they were young, their parents yelled again and again, and eventually pushed their children away again and again, until the distance between them grew farther, until they could no longer see each other. We all know that education methods such as yelling, scolding, and beating are not effective. More often than not, parents are just venting their emotions. Desperately venting his dissatisfaction, the reason is that the child begs for a hug again and again. If parents do this, they will not affect their future. First, learn to control your emotions. What I want to say is that people should not be slaves to their emotions at any time, and should not make all actions controlled by their emotions. Moreover, research has found that when a person loses control of his emotions, his brain goes blank. If the out-of-control emotions are too strong, it will be difficult for the brain to recover, which will lead to a weakened self-control ability, narrow thinking, and a state of being out of control. It only takes a few seconds for some parents to lose control of their emotions, but often these few seconds may ruin your child\’s life.. In 1920, psychologist John B. Watson conducted the infamous \”Little Albert Experiment\”, using little Albert who was just over 11 months old as the experimental subject. Before the experiment, Watson briefly exposed little Albert to white rats, rabbits, monkeys, dogs, and other objects, and found that he was not afraid of any of them. Later in the test, Watson and his partner used a hammer to hit the hanging iron rod behind Little Albert, making a particularly loud sound, and asked Little Albert to continue touching the white rat and other objects. At this time, little Albert was so frightened that he cried and acted very frightened. After several repeated stimulations, little Albert, who was not afraid of white rats before, became particularly fearful and tried to leave. Then he was tested with rabbits, monkeys, etc. that he was not afraid of before (with loud sounds to cooperate) and found that Little Albert was terrified. What this experiment wants to show is that fear can be learned through conditioned reflexes, and the same goes for parents who reprimand their children. No child is born afraid of his mother, but through the yelling, beating and scolding, he gradually becomes afraid. Secondly, don’t treat your children as emotional trash cans. Many parents may have already done this. They often turn some unsatisfactory things into getting angry at their children. Then criticize the child and vent his inner dissatisfaction and grievances on the child. But on the other hand, why should a minor child be responsible for your problem? Finally, the right way to educate. When children make mistakes, they are also scared inside. If you just yell, it will undoubtedly make things worse and will not achieve any effect at all. The best way is to let children bear the consequences of their mistakes and let them know where they made mistakes and how to correct them. Because there is no use just losing your temper. The purpose of education is not to make the next generation become people like you. That is called copying, not real education.