Why don’t children eat well?

Personal test by Fanzhawa is effective. What should I do if my child doesn’t eat well? Today, I will talk to you about children’s meals from the perspective of a mother of three children. I have received many messages from mothers saying that their children do not eat well, do not eat without feeding, and take a long time to eat. I want to ask, what is the dining atmosphere at your home like? Is it relaxed and happy, with everyone at home together, a warm atmosphere, or is it a tense atmosphere? That is to say, think about it from the child\’s perspective – when he eats, does he feel relaxed, or does he feel urged or even criticized at all times? Considering the situation of our three children, I want to tell you the truth, that is, children’s appetites are really innate. Some children are born with a very good appetite, like our second child Xiaorou, she will eat whatever you give her, and she eats very deliciously. Watching her eat is really satisfying. But some children, such as our eldest son, including myself when I was a child, and even now, my appetite has never been particularly good. Moreover, eating itself is not a particularly big pleasure for us. I may eat so that I will not be hungry, but I may not really get that much pleasure from eating. Therefore, you will find that the children who need you to urge and feed them are often the ones who are born with poor appetites. For this kind of child, I have several practical suggestions, and they are all very successful suggestions that have been implemented on our eldest son. At what age should we start not feeding him? It can start as early as 1 year old (12 months). CCTV’s 5 premium documentaries on Chinese history and culture, treasure them for your children. In fact, I think back to my daughter. When she was seven or eight months old, we had already started giving her green beans that were relatively rotten, including some blueberries and raspberries. Ah, or cut strawberries… She can pick them up with her hands. Then you will think that the child will eat them all over the place. It doesn\’t matter. Because at this time, the child is just feeling the food with his hands, and when you let him pick up the food by himself, you actually give him a lot of freedom. In other words, I often Talk about a sense of control. Especially when the child reaches the stage of 1 to 4 years old, you will find that sometimes, you feed him food but he refuses to eat, because he wants to pursue his own sense of control and freedom. So for children of this age, the best way is to give him a few kinds of food. For example, you can give him 3 to 5 kinds of food on his small plate, and then let him choose freely. You can eat whichever one you eat first. Even if he doesn\’t like some food, don\’t say, \”Hey, eat some of this! Eat some of this!\” Just let him choose, and then you\’ll know. Don\’t make the same food again, or just make it in a different form. If some parents are worried that their children will get stuck in their throats if they eat the beans, you can crush the beans (or blueberries) in advance to make themDon\’t scroll so easily, this is a pretty good method. Give him enough freedom and don’t stuff food with him, and don’t stare at him. You need to know whose business it is to eat in the end – whoever eats the food is his business. The child’s food is the child’s business, and your food is your business. If you always stare at your children and your own food is not delicious, you have not provided a good example to your children in the first place. Therefore, when eating, the atmosphere is very important. Everyone should be happy and enjoy the eating process. Your children are just part of the joyful atmosphere at your mealtimes. Many times, I feel that for children who don’t eat well, we will make the family atmosphere very tense, and the whole atmosphere will be wrong. The focus of eating has shifted from four or five people eating together at the beginning to the children in the end. So what do you think the children feel? That must be pressure. In addition, you don\’t give him freedom. You keep stuffing food for him, feeding him food, and then urging him: \”Chew! Chew!\” ——How do you think you would feel if you were a child? So don’t stuff it, don’t stare, just let nature take its course and make eating a very natural thing. Moreover, the child must understand that eating is his own business, and he is not the one who wants to eat because of other people’s push. . Treat Preferences Calmly Do we often find that our children don’t eat this or that? At this time, you need to say to him very calmly and simply: \”Oh, it seems that you don\’t like beef rice today. What a pity. What do you want to eat tomorrow?\” If you ask, you are actually sending several messages to your child: 1. His preferences are respected because not everyone likes to eat everything. This is a very normal thing. 2 He has the freedom to choose dishes, but we don’t revolve around him. It doesn’t mean that if you don’t like this dish, then I will quickly cook another dish for you… No, the time for cooking at home has passed. Yes, but if there is anything you want to eat, you can tell us and we will try to make it happen tomorrow. If your child eats particularly well one day, how do you praise him? One of my experiences, I have actually shared it with you before, is that when you are not a cheerleader, you only need to describe what you see. You can say: \”Oh, mom saw that you ate even the last grain of rice (or every vegetable) today. It seems that you are really hungry today.\” Never tell your child: \”Wow! You ate well, you ate so well today!\” Again, if a person is praised for something as simple as eating, are you putting him too low? Don’t comment or complain. Don’t comment on the child’s failure to eat well at the dinner table or in front of the child. Don’t complain. Don’t complain to the child and say: “I cook for you in different ways every day, why are you not good at it?” Is it delicious?\” Don\’t complain to the people next to you: \”Oh, this kid really gives me a headache when it comes to eating.\” In fact, I think it is your own pleasure to cook in different ways. ,Thatabsolutely okay. But if you turn this matter into pressure on the child and hope that your child will eat well by saying this, I think this is unfair to the child. Isn\’t this the same as taking on a lot of mortgages, buying a house in a school district, and then hoping that your children will study well? Children should not have to endure this kind of pressure. In fact, it can be summed up in one sentence: You have to make eating a very natural thing. It really doesn’t matter if you eat less at one meal or even less at one meal. But if you let your child eat in this stressful atmosphere for a long time, if he doesn\’t eat well, it will really turn from a physical problem into a psychological problem, and then you will be in trouble.