Why is it said that raising children is too responsible is a kind of irresponsibility?

A parent raised this question: First of all, I think it is definitely irresponsible for parents to let their children develop. All parents have the responsibility to plan the future for their children. However, in this process, we must also respect the children\’s opinions and make plans based on the children\’s development. We should play a role of making suggestions instead of forcing children to develop exactly according to our ideas. Many parents will habitually set the future development direction for their children. For example, in the future we want to go abroad, become a civil servant, become a doctor… Of course we all hope that our children will be successful in the future, be successful, and live a better and happier life. However, can our wishful thinking really realize such a wish? Even if the child finally goes abroad, becomes a civil servant, and becomes a doctor, will his life really be happy? I think this needs to be seriously considered by us parents. I have a friend. When his son was born, the whole family was very happy. His family has been passed down by a single family for three generations. After years of hard work and hard work, he finally left the small county and settled in Beijing. Therefore, he started planning for his son\’s future very early. The goal is also very clear, we must let our son study abroad. Therefore, they have focused on cultivating their children\’s English since childhood, and the couple have become regular participants in various training classes and qualification examinations. The child is very smart and his English is really good. However, maybe because the child is pushed too hard, the child is particularly disgusted with speaking English. Almost every day, his family would get into a frenzy over speaking English. CCTV’s 5 high-quality documentaries on Chinese history and culture, treasured by children. The couple forced their children to communicate with them in English. The children were unwilling to do so and even said confidently: \”I am Chinese, why do I have to speak English.\” My friend told me He said: \”You are going to study abroad in the future, how can you do it if you don\’t speak English.\” However, the child said: \”You go, I\’m in China.\” He was speechless. Every time a friend complains about his son to us, he always looks like he hates iron. It is said that the child does not know how to cherish opportunities. When he was in school, he wanted to go abroad very much because the conditions did not allow him to delay. Now that the conditions are so good, his son does not want to go. It is true that he does not know the blessings in the midst of blessings… Just like this friend of mine, Many parents unknowingly impose their own ideas on their children. They will feel that they are doing it for their children, and if their children don\’t listen to them, they will definitely suffer. However, a child is a relatively independent individual after all, and he will have different ideas at different stages. Besides, what parents think is good may not be really good for their children. Whether you should learn English or not, it goes without saying that you definitely should. However, children cannot learn English just to go abroad. The training that should be cultivated and the guidance that should be coached. The world is so big and changing every day. Who can say for sure what will happen in the future? Maybe the child will want to go abroad one day, even if the parents don’t agree! Therefore, don’t preset your child’s future in advance and stubbornly demand that your child will be like that in the future. We can help our children pave the way and help them walk more smoothly, but we must not carry our children forward. Otherwise, once we let go of our hands one day in the future, the childIt is very likely that you will fall and never stand up again!