Why should babies be allowed to tantrum and cry? The truth makes parents ashamed!

Psychology master Armas said that when some people were young, they would be rejected and scolded by their mothers whenever they got angry. Mother is the representative of love, so as long as children feel their mother\’s anger, they will be afraid of losing maternal love. . Therefore, in real life, most love and anger seem to be unable to coexist. As soon as the child gets angry and behaves, the mother will withdraw her love. So, don’t children have the right to be angry, cry, and vent their emotions? There is a 6-year-old child next to me. When he makes the slightest mistake, his mother criticizes and reprimands him, and he resists by crying, but his mother always stops his tears by saying \”no crying.\” Soon, the child stopped crying, and then his mother complained that her child was too timid… (Being a baby makes me feel so tired~) If the child cries, let him cry, \”I don\’t agree with your point of view. , but I defend your right to speak.\” This sentence also applies to children. If a child has emotions to express, parents must give him the right to express them and respect his emotional changes. When the baby cries, let him cry while ensuring his safety. If he cries to the point where he doubts his motive for crying, he will understand that crying cannot solve the problem and he must quickly find a way out. This is an exercise formed by the baby\’s own thinking, which is much more effective than a parent pointing at his scalp and threatening him to \”stop crying.\” After the baby stops crying and becomes emotionally stable, the mother can then \”negotiate\” with the baby: Why are you crying? how do you want to do it? Is there a better way to solve this? Under normal circumstances, your baby will reason with you in a serious manner and suddenly become like a sensible little adult. When children get angry, adults should first adopt an understanding attitude. What parents are most worried about is that their children cry and get angry outside. Considering that they will be watched by people, they dare not stop the children. The \”naughty children\” become even more unscrupulous. Therefore, they have to wait until they get home. Clean up” him. Parents who adopt this method usually end up with a less optimistic outcome. The child will think that the adult is \”revenge\” on him. As time goes by, the child not only fails to get rid of the habit of getting angry, but also intensifies it. The more he is in a crowded place, the less face he will give you, because he has also learned the method of \”retaliation\”. Whether in public or at home, whenever a child gets angry or has a tantrum, parents should first stabilize the child\’s mood by saying \”I understand how you feel\”, and then negotiate with the child for a solution, or agree to allow it only this time. But don\’t add fuel to the fire when you are angry, otherwise you will lose both sides. I believe that most children are obedient, but they cannot avoid crying and losing their temper occasionally. Parents must first control their own emotions, let alone take the opportunity to vent their anger on their children because of other annoying things. This is especially true for parents who use their children as a \”punching bag\” because the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious. The child is young but has a delicate mind. Don\’t let him think that he is the \”trigger\” for the quarrel between his parents. Usually, when parents have troubles at work or life, they can talk to their children and listen to their opinions. Children will also take the initiative to communicate with their parents when they have bad emotions. When parents and children understand each other, they will know how to solve similar problems next time, and neither party will be able to act emotionally.Make the wrong choice. Remember, the best way to educate is that the relationship between parents and children is open and has no status. Only when you are on the same level as your children can you truly understand them.