Will it really be easier to take care of my children when they grow older?

When their children are very young, many people comfort themselves or others and say: \”It will be easier to take care of the child when he grows up.\” The basic meaning is: \”When the child is young, it is difficult to communicate with language, and he cannot say anything. I understand what you mean, so it’s difficult to take care of them; when children are young, their eating and sleeping rhythms have not yet been formed, and they have to rely on their mothers to coax them, so it’s difficult to take care of them;…\” Wait, wait, there are many reasons! But an incident during the National Day made me understand that \”it\’s easier to take care of your children when they are older\” has another meaning. Because of the foreseeable intensive business trips after the National Day, I am not willing to play in Renrenrenrenren during the National Day. So I simply took the edamame back to my parents\’ house to hide for a few days. Those days were all trivial daily matters for grandparents and grandchildren! Full of deep feelings of warmth. The feeling of being close to someone from another generation is really a blessing for children. When parting, Maodou kept saying that he didn\’t want to leave. When grandma arrived at the train station, the moment she waved goodbye, Maodou\’s mouth began to glance down, her eye circles began to turn red, and her chubby little fingers wiped away the tears that were about to fall, feeling like she wanted to cry but couldn\’t. I feel embarrassed to cry, but I really miss you. Finally he couldn\’t hold it back and cried. Grandma and we were all surprised. Because before, whether it was separation from me or another generation, Maodou would either burst into tears or wave his hands and let me go. There was no neutrality between crying willfully and being indifferent. Then I remembered what is said in developmental psychology. It is only when children are three or four years old that they develop such delicate emotions as shame, guilt, concealment, and long-term longing. These delicate emotions are becoming more and more similar to those of adults. Parents will feel that their children are no longer like little people learning to talk, but have become peers with the same secret and subtle emotions as them. When we say \”the children are older, it is easier to take care of them\”, we do not mean that when the children are older, there will be fewer problems and parents will be relaxed. But when the children get older (starting from the age of three or four), we can receive adult-like positive emotional feedback from the children, which makes us feel that \”the children are starting to understand.\” Before this, children\’s emotional expressions were clumsy, simple, and rough. For example, 1-year-old children also love their parents, but they only look at them and do not say anything. 2-year-old children also love their parents, but often respond with \”no\” as a rejection. Until the age of three or four, children\’s emotional development becomes more complete, and they suddenly have more similar feelings to us. After we got on the train, we received a WeChat message from my grandma, saying: \”The moment Maodou cried, I felt so relieved. No wonder everyone likes children. The excitement at this moment made me feel that all the hard work was worth it.\” Three The emotional response of a four-year-old child to you is like \”a hundred million hits you, and all the hard work in the past has paid off.\” It\’s like if we invest ten dollars in the bank every day, we won\’t see much money after a few days, and we won\’t see much money after a few months. The ten dollars invested every day seemed to be thrown into a bottomless pit, and there was no response. We are not discouraged and keep investing, but suddenly the bank notifies you: your deposit is 100 million! Therefore, when you are three or four years old, it is the best time to cultivate relationships with your children.the best time. Because at this time, children really start to remember things. They have good memories and can remember many small things. Every little thing you did good to them will remember these warm feelings, thus forming a sense of attachment to you. . Many children who are separated from each other start to remember the past between their grandparents and themselves starting from the age of three or four. This is why “it’s easier to take care of your children when they are older”. Because you can finally see your rewards in real terms, and your children have finally become your caring little clothes that know how hot and cold they are.