Wise parents never do these 4 things in front of their children! See early and benefit early

The famous German philosopher Jaspers said: The essence of education is that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul calls another soul. Parents\’ words and behaviors have the most direct and significant impact on children. Children\’s hearts are sensitive and fragile. Sometimes an unintentional move by parents may deeply hurt their hearts and distort the formation of their values. Therefore, there are some behaviors that parents must not show in front of their children. In particular, the following four types are harmful to the growth of children but not beneficial. Parents will check it and make corrections if there are any, and encourage others if they don’t. The afternoon tea where the writer was sarcastic and slanderous to each other tells a story: A couple often sarcastic and sarcastic about each other in front of their children, living their lives in a mutually destructive mode. My father disliked that my mother went to a pheasant university. My mother ridiculed my father that although he was a top student, his salary was not enough for him. One day, the child said to his mother who was about to check his homework: Mom, dad said you are \”mentally retarded\”, so don\’t check, because I\’m afraid you will make a mistake in your calculations. Mom\’s heart suddenly went cold. Psychologists believe that if parents slander their partner in front of their children, or pull their children to take sides, it will distort and split the child\’s psychology, which will have a great impact on the child\’s future personality, relationship, and marriage. Dad says mom is incompetent, and mom says dad is useless. If a child hears this too often, he will gradually develop a sense of identity in his heart. Parents who are supposed to respect and revere have become \”garbage\” and \”trash\” in the hearts of their children. The children will feel very uncomfortable and their personalities will be deviated as a result. Complaining about life and passively escaping from the world, a Korean TV program conducted an experiment: placing babies and mothers at opposite ends of a \”visual cliff\” and allowing the babies to crawl toward their mothers step by step. If the mother looks serious, the baby will go right back. And if the mother has a smile on her face, the baby will muster up the courage to break through the \”visual cliff\” and eventually crawl toward the mother\’s arms smoothly. Research results show that a mother’s smile actually conveys the power of love to her children, which can make them confident as they grow. In reality, many parents always like to show their negative emotions in front of their children, and even take it out on their children. Complaining about the price of vegetables, complaining about the difficulty of sending children to school, being angry that they are not rich… they are riddled with negative energy and cannot see any positive and sunny attitude towards life. Children are still young, and their understanding of the world is still at the level of beautiful yearning. If they are influenced by their parents\’ decadent emotions for a long time, they will easily become insecure and fall into an extremely negative state. Over time, they will lose their love for the world. Therefore, no matter how much trouble parents have, they should not show it in front of their children. This kind of pressure is not something they should bear. Speak ill of others and abuse others. Some time ago, my distant nephew Xuanxuan came to visit me. When I was cooking at noon, I ran out of soy sauce, so I asked Ruirui to take him to the convenience store downstairs to buy a bottle and bring it back. As soon as the two children walked in, I heard Xuanxuan cursing: \”He is a bitch!\” \”Sooner or later, the business will collapse!\” I heard something was wrong, so I hurried over.Go ask what happened. Xuanxuan\’s face turned red with anger, and he said angrily: \”I asked my boss to give me change coins, but he said he didn\’t have any. I asked him to find someone else to change them, but he didn\’t want to. I was so angry!\” \”Oh, what did I think? It\’s a big deal. If you don\’t have it, it won\’t happen. Can I exchange my coins for you later?\” \”You are shameless and will not deal with evildoers!…\” I thought that everything would be fine after I comforted her, but Xuanxuan was still unforgiving. He kept swearing. I really didn\’t expect that a 12-year-old child could be so violent. Later, I really couldn\’t stand it anymore, so I sent them to play video games, and then they calmed down… I heard from relatives that Xuanxuan\’s parents had bad tempers. They often got angry over trivial things, and they didn\’t know how to restrain themselves in front of their children. Once they were scolded, When someone wakes up, it is like a flood that has been released and cannot stop… Under the influence of long-term dizziness, children have unknowingly contracted this habit. When they are dissatisfied, they swear and always use vicious words. Use language to attack others. At a young age, my soul was infiltrated by darkness, and I was easily labeled as \”uneducated\” by others. Addicted to mobile phones and computers, ignoring the needs of children. In the past 2017, the University of Michigan released an important research report. The study found that the more parents looked at cell phones and tablets during family time, the more likely their children were to develop behavioral problems such as oversensitivity, impatience, and hyperactivity. I remember watching the confession of a primary school student on a talk show. He said sadly: \”Dad loves his mobile phone more than he loves me.\” I asked my dad to watch cartoons with me, and he kept scrolling with his mobile phone; I asked my dad to accompany me on weekends. Play, he would rather play games than take me to the amusement park… I hate mobile phones, and I hate my dad who is addicted to mobile phones even more! If parents are addicted to mobile phones in front of their children, they will have two kinds of psychology: First, mobile phones are really fun and interesting. Second, my parents don’t love me, and my phone is more important than me. This will produce two results: First, the children will start to play with mobile phones like their parents, and eventually they will become obsessed with mobile phones and cannot extricate themselves. The family will sit together and play independently, and no one will pay attention to the other. Second, due to the lack of communication with parents, the emotional bond is broken. As a result, children may alienate their parents, hate their parents, or even develop a series of psychological problems… There is a popular saying nowadays: The farthest distance in the world is when I am in front of you while you are playing on your mobile phone. This sentence can better reflect the meaning of sadness when placed on parents and children. Children need their parents\’ company and their parents\’ care. Promise me, learn to put down your phone in front of your children, look at them more, and give them a hug, okay?