With these three gifts, your child\’s life will be much smoother

From my initial exposure to children’s books, to studying child psychology, to creating this public account; from having no children, to when Dingdang was over two years old, I have read at least forty or fifty parenting books. The more I researched, the more I discovered that in fact, the so-called good education consists of just those few things. As long as we grasp the main direction and do our best to do what we should do, children will naturally take responsibility for their own growth, creating a virtuous cycle of development. As parents, we must strive to accumulate material wealth for our children, but more importantly, we must grasp the essence of education in the process of raising children and create spiritual wealth for our children. As Ding Dong gets older, it is inevitable that he will start to consider the direction of his children’s education. What I did for him was not only visible early education enlightenment such as reading, art, sports, etc., but I also summarized three spiritual gifts for children. The first gift cultivates children\’s independent spirit and allows them to find their own path. Readers who are familiar with me know that my path to children\’s book promotion is actually quite tortuous. I have experienced various job changes, industry changes, and changes in the process. The city… in the words of a good friend, is \”if you don\’t do it, you won\’t die.\” When I first graduated, I was very confused and accidentally became a children\’s book editor. So I dived in headfirst, immersed in studying a lot of children\’s books in the studio day and night. Now that I think about that period of study, I feel a little lonely, but also very peaceful and beautiful. Two years later, eager for a challenge, I broke into the \”Women\’s Newspaper\” magazine with courage. In the high-intensity life of a magazine worker, it is inevitable to feel pressure; there were countless times when my eyes were red because of rushing manuscripts, and countless times when I cried because of frustration, but in the process, I also grew up rapidly… Next, I served as a TV director After that, I started a children\’s magazine with like-minded friends. I worked hard and received many surprises, but also experienced the frustration of wasting all my hard work… Although I did not finish a lot of the work in between. But these processes are full of meaning and allowed me to find the path that truly suits me step by step. Now that I have this official account, in addition to sharing articles that I find useful and interesting in my parenting journey, I have gained enough sense of accomplishment and value. I can also do what I have wanted to do for many years, such as doing charity work in mountainous areas and helping more children; such as wanting to publish my own book…and these ideas and attempts are all to find a path that suits me and to better Realize yourself. For Ding Dong, I expect the same. Although I always want to give him everything I think is best, I will always remind myself that although he is still a child, he should also have the power to be himself. What I can do is cultivate his independent spirit, let him go when he needs to, and give him room to grow. I will accompany him to read books, watch movies, travel around the world, get in touch with art, painting, music, sports, and try to get in touch with as many beautiful things as possible and broaden his horizons. In the process of accompanying him to grow, help him find his interests and fully realize his potential. At the same time, I will also appreciate him and encourage him to learn to accept himself and motivate himself; let him use his own strength to overcome difficulties, continue to grow, and become the best version of himself. The second gift cultivates children’s positive qualitiesPut in the utmost effort in everything you do. Regarding this, I would like to talk about the example of my cousin. I went home during the Chinese New Year and chatted with my cousin. I was deeply moved by his story of struggle. He did not have a high degree of education. After graduating from technical secondary school, he started working in various ventures. He first worked as a coach in a driving school. A few years later, he opened a small driving school of his own and made his first pot of gold. Later, at the suggestion of a friend, we started a business and worked on projects together. After working on it for a year or two, many payments were in arrears and the business pressure was too great, so we announced failure and quit. Starting last year, he started to drive an APP Express with some debts. More than a year later, he became a model for the company, paid off various debts, and earned over 20,000 yuan a month. Recently I started to be the captain and lead new people. He described his daily routine to me in a very vivid way: \”Every morning, I get up at 5:30, then wash up for about 10 minutes, go for a morning run, and then start work on time at 6:30… 12 noon Half a meal, a nap of about 10 minutes… I work until about 23 o\’clock in the evening…\” He talked about his daily routine, detailing the time points every day, how many rewards he would get for running a few orders, and how he \”accurately stepped on the points. \”Getting these rewards; and then how to \”sleep\” to recharge after eating, and also talked about various work skills that he was proud of… The process he talked about was always full of enthusiasm, and I was also sincerely moved. Maybe in the eyes of many people, this kind of income is not amazing, but in him, I feel \”excellence\” and \”success\”. He made me understand that excellence has nothing to do with birth or talent, but a positive spiritual force. Not a comparative, but a superlative. It is a person who releases his greatest energy, makes the ultimate effort, and shows his life attitude. I feel that this kind of positive quality is so important, whether it is for our adults’ careers and lives, or for our children’s education! We cannot convey this spirit to our children in words, but we need to practice it and let our children feel it. I often work with Dingdang. Sometimes I am scratching my head because of writing a manuscript, sometimes I am worried about group shopping, sometimes I am immersed in research in various books, sometimes I go to the publishing house to choose books… He also sees all these things. . I think that during this process, he felt his mother\’s work status, saw her mother\’s efforts, and knew that her mother would also encounter difficulties in her life, but she would eventually be able to overcome them. He will also feel that being positive is the best attitude in life. There is no doubt that he may encounter difficulties in the future. I hope he understands that there are many difficulties in life, but as long as we face them positively, we can find ways to overcome them. I hope he knows that he can take the path he likes and then go back to the wrong path. Don\’t worry about temporary success or failure, believe that everything is part of growth. The most important thing is to always maintain an upward spirit. The third gift is the feeling that parents’ love and support for their children is the driving force behind their children’s excellence. It is also the most important thing my parents have done to me in my personal growth process. For example, as I mentioned in the first point, after graduating from college, I changed jobs, industries, and cities at will. Over the years, I faced countless choices, andEncountered numerous setbacks. I am especially grateful to my parents every time. Although they are also worried, they always give me full support and encouragement without hesitation: \”Whatever you want to do, just do it, and don\’t let yourself have any regrets.\” Your parents support you. Even if you fail, they don\’t care. We will support you when you come back.\” \”As long as you work hard, we believe you can do well.\”… Such simple words make me deeply moved every time, Resurrected with full health and continued to move forward. It is conceivable that if my parents responded to me with denial, blow, or even abuse (which in their view was good for their children) instead of love and support, then my life would be much more difficult. It\’s not that I\’m too fragile, but parents have too much influence on their children. Some parents always hope to use harsh words to spur their children, but the result is the opposite. What children need more is the kind of parents who provide unconditional support for their lives. They are the kind of parents whose children lead the way, but still firmly accompany their own children at the back… I remember Alan MacFarlane, professor of social anthropology at the University of Cambridge in the UK, once said: \”Parents are very concerned about the quality of their children\’s education.\” The quality of a child depends mostly on the love and support of the parents for the child, rather than the education level of the parents.\” Since Dingdang was born, I have expressed my love to him almost every day, passing it on through words and actions. Because I know that the best nourishment for a child’s life is the love from our hearts. And the love he feels will slowly integrate into his heart and become the source of his confidence and strength in life. Giving love and support to children is the most important thing, but it is also the most easily ignored. I remember a psychology teacher once said: Behind every outstanding child, there needs to be 5,000 fearless praises and expressions of unconditional love. Have you done that?