Worried that your child will not be able to survive in society? The best way is to let them unleash their potential

Bruce, the author of \”Army of Dads\”, was diagnosed with a rare cancer: osteosarcoma when his career was at its peak. He was afraid that he would no longer be able to accompany his twin daughters when they grew up, so he found six of his most trusted friends to perform different versions of himself to teach and accompany his daughters, and to be their future \”fathers\”. These six \”dads\” represent: action, being yourself, dreams, friendship, curiosity and creativity. Taken together, it is actually a person’s independent growth. Just like Bruce himself wrote for his daughter: \”The most important task of parents is to cultivate the ability of their children to survive independently. Even if we are gone, you can grow with your own strength.\” Yes, the best protection, It should be a kind of out-of-field education. Even if you leave your children one day, they can live a solid life in this world on their own strength. Respecting and supporting children to develop their potential, develop corresponding survival skills, and create more possibilities for their future is a reliable off-site education. Huang Lei and Sun Li\’s daughter, Duoduo, appeared on the catwalk at Paris Fashion Week some time ago, attracting the attention of countless netizens. In fact, even earlier, Huang Lei and Sun Li showed off their rich extracurricular life on Weibo: designing multiple sets of skirts for Barbie dolls, designing dresses for herself, explaining her design concepts in English, and translating three English books. In addition, Duoduo also learned to bake small cakes and make colorful popsicles. Although netizens have said that Duoduo is excellent, some parents also think that these extracurricular activities are not doing their job properly and delaying their studies. In fact, it is a kind of wisdom to allow children to pursue what they love unscrupulously and realize their potential, and it is also the foundation of off-site education. Because in the process of mobilizing their potential, children will develop some real skills, which may one day become their foundation in society. In this way, parents can really leave the situation and let them go. This is the best protection for children. Zhao Xicheng, known as the \”Chinese Shipping King\”, is not only excellent himself, but also has 6 daughters who have been educated. All of them graduated from Ivy League universities in the United States, and 4 of them also studied at Harvard University. After they started working, they also shine in their respective industries. Among them, the most eye-catching is the eldest daughter Elaine Chao. She is the first Chinese cabinet minister in the United States and a \”veteran of three dynasties\” in the White House. She has been re-elected from the Bush era to the current Trump administration. Elaine Chao, who became the Deputy Secretary of Transportation of the United States at the age of 35, is undoubtedly the pride of all Chinese. Regarding success, Elaine Chao recalled that when she was a child, she wanted to be the president, and her father told her that you can’t be the president because you are not an American, but there is hope for being a minister. If you don’t set limits for yourself, everyone can do it. better. Although many people thought this was a joke as soon as she said it, Chao Xiaolan listened. She was admitted to Harvard in 1977, received a master\’s degree two years later, and then joined Citibank as a senior accountant. Six years later, she participated in the \”White House Scholar\” campaign and stood out, and her glorious life began. From ordinary to extraordinary, this is inseparable from Zhao Xicheng\’s good education.Even President Bush Sr. once said to his wife: \”We should learn from the Zhao family on how to educate their children.\” He respected his daughter\’s ideas and allowed her to mobilize her potential without any scruples, set no limits for herself, and boldly explore the future. direction of life. This kind of support and encouragement has enabled Zhao Xiaolan to realize the dream that others dare not think of today, and it has also given her more confidence and confidence to face her future life independently. No coincidence. Mark Zuckerberg, the founder of Facebook, is no stranger to everyone. His success is also inseparable from his family’s education. Zuckerberg’s parents believe that supporting their children in what they want to do allows them to give full play to their nature and Potential is more important than anything else. When Zuckerberg was a child, he liked programming and had little interest in school studies. Instead, he was extremely passionate about programming. However, his father was not angry about this and hired a software expert as a tutor for him. In college, Zuckerberg often played computer games with his classmates. His mother was worried that he would be addicted, so she told him a lot of psychological knowledge, and he was deeply inspired by it. Combining psychology with game design, he created a more interesting game. Since then, he has continued to develop and update games, and also involved his mother in game design. From programming, playing games, designing games, to later dropping out of Harvard, starting an independent business, and finally starting his own business empire, all this was because his parents always supported his chosen direction. Let him exert his greatest potential and value in the fields he is good at, find his own direction in life, and turn his so-called hobbies into skills that allow him to stand in society. Brand said: \”The first element of success is a sense of direction. You must establish a valuable goal for yourself that can be gradually achieved based on your own talents or unique advantages.\” The exploration of this sense of direction is based on the fact that children have been growing up. The potential shown in all aspects, if we can allow children to try more different directions and mobilize their inner potential as early as possible, maybe they will determine their goals as early as possible, take less detours, and make more correct efforts. . Li Meijin, a professor at the People\’s Public Security University of China, said in an education lecture that we should pay more attention to children\’s survival skills education instead of blindly focusing on exam-oriented education. She said that today\’s children may read and study for more than ten hours a day, but the problem is that not all children are willing to read and can absorb it. Instead of letting them read books all day inefficiently, it is better to use their time on what they are good at, to develop their own potential and make more valuable efforts. For example, he said that if Jackie Chan were placed in our current education system, he might be a \”little gangster\” because he is not good at book learning and is only good at movements. Then let him develop more movements. In this field, he can fully awaken his potential and achieve excellence. Indeed, each of us ultimately survives by relying on one of our own specialties, and this understanding should be passed on to children’s lives as early as possible. In addition to studying, they should be able to actively explore and pursue their areas of expertise from an early age, fully develop their potential in this area, and master more practical skills based on society.Li Meijin emphasized that children should understand \”what my value is\” as early as possible, and parents should observe \”what they may be suitable for\” of their children as early as possible. Fully mobilize children\’s potential and allow them to develop freely. During this process, you can discuss with your children what they like and analyze together what career they may be suitable for in the future. This is the best protection for them in the true sense. If everyone acts according to secular routines, does not care about children\’s preferences, and does not explore their potential, this will not only suppress children\’s talents, but also easily lead to a single value system in them. Apart from academic performance, they may never find anything. Places can feel their own value. Goethe said: \”No one knows in advance how powerful he is until he tries it.\” Let children try more different directions and unleash their potential unscrupulously, so that they can explore their own possibilities in more fields . And some of the skills learned in this process may become the basis of their survival in the future, so that parents can leave with peace of mind. There is a saying that goes well: \”Education is not just about getting admission notices from senior schools, but about bringing out living people with distinctive personalities; education is not just about pursuing a certain percentage of admission rates, Rather, we pursue the vivid, lively and active development of each student.” Yes, in addition to the basic tasks of learning, children need to learn to be a living person, full of flexible personality and vitality, and have a positive attitude toward life. Always return the love. And these are all based on their ability to fully and freely develop their potential. Only by constantly releasing their nature and exploring more directions can they be curious and pursue the world, and continue to feel the meaning of life and the meaning of living. . In this case, respect your children\’s wishes and let them unleash their potential unscrupulously. Even if you will eventually be far away from your children, they can live a good life calmly. Finding your own foothold, maximizing your own value, and living your own life is the best protection for children.