Wuhan beheading case: The sooner parents know about these 4 things that are related to their children’s lives, the better

As soon as Youma went to work in the morning, she heard the shocking news-the beheading incident in Wuhan! The noodle shop owner Yao was beheaded and had his arms cut off in the street because of a conflict with diners. The scene was very cruel and bloody. It is said that Hu, a 22-year-old migrant worker, and two companions went to a noodle shop next to the station to eat. The three of them each ordered a bowl of the cheapest vegetarian noodles in the store, which was priced at 4 yuan a bowl. But when they paid the bill, the boss told them that the price had increased and it cost 5 yuan a bowl. Afterwards, the other two companions remained silent and took out their money to settle the bill. But Hu was very dissatisfied. He thought it was 4 yuan if it said 4 yuan on the sign. Why should he pay 5 yuan? Just argue with the boss. However, the boss was too lazy to explain and yelled at Hu impatiently: I said a few dollars is just a few dollars. If you can afford it, eat it. If you can\’t afford it, don\’t eat it. Get out of here! The noodle shop owner\’s words made Hu, who worked out of town, feel even more humiliated, so he angrily started to fight with the noodle shop owner. Hu was thin and short. He was grabbed by the neck and pressed against the wall by the noodle shop owner several times. Hu, who didn\’t have the upper hand, turned red-eyed. He picked up the kitchen knife on the chopping board and slashed at the noodle shop owner. Like an out-of-control beast, he vented his anger on the noodle shop owner one by one, and threw the severed head into the trash can… After the incident, his family said that Hu had a second-level mental disability and went crazy and even kissed himself. Both my parents beat me… Photos of Hu were circulated online. To be honest, when Youma saw the news, she felt a chill running down her spine. In broad daylight, those plots that can only be found in thriller movies actually happen around us, which is really frightening. In today\’s society, due to various reasons such as the gap between the rich and the poor, pressure to survive, mental burden, etc., many people are very violent, grumpy and fierce, like gunpowder. We don’t know whether the passersby we pass by are good people or villains; we don’t know what kind of dangers are hidden under the seemingly peaceful life. Therefore, in order for us to go on safely and for our children to grow up smoothly, it is really necessary to have a good talk with ourselves and our children about some things: Children, don’t be quick to talk when you are out. Speaking ill words, ridiculing, and cursing are low-cost ways to vent your dissatisfaction by just moving your mouth. But you never know whether the person standing opposite you is a coward or a devil. Sometimes we really can\’t afford the consequences of a bad word. Everyone has an unknown sensitive point in their heart, and sometimes, an ordinary word can trigger this point, causing people to do crazy and dehumanizing things. In this incident, if the noodle shop had really increased its prices normally, and if the boss could calmly explain to Hu and others, what happened later would probably not have happened. However, some things are like fate. The noodle shop owner who is used to shouting and drinking unexpectedly encounters Hu who is mentally disturbed, paranoid and violent. As a result, one person lost his life and died without a complete body, and the other person was not much better off. There have been such examples around Youma. My cousin got a job as a telemarketer when he just graduated from college and called strangers every day.promoted products. One day, after my cousin was rejected by a client, he felt very unhappy and casually cursed \”Silly B\”. However, at this time, the phone call had not been hung up. After hearing this insult, the customer on the other side became angry and took a group of people to his cousin\’s company to scold and smash… In the end, the cousin\’s Dad had to pay both the company and the client, and spent tens of thousands to settle the matter, and his cousin was also fired. There are really too many lessons that misfortune comes from the mouth. Therefore, parents must tell their children to be cautious when going out and getting along with others. It\’s okay to argue with reason, but don\’t say bad words, don\’t talk to others just for the sake of your own mood, and don\’t despise or ridicule others because you think they look easy to bully. Because some evil consequences really don’t need to happen, and we can’t afford them. Children, don\’t fight with vicious dogs and stay away from garbage people. There is always a kind of \”garbage people\” around us. They have very negative emotions and blame other people for their unsatisfactory relationships, work and life. They are not pleasing to everyone. , full of complaints and hatred towards society, and has a temper as capricious as a vicious dog. Once you offend him, he will take out all his grievances on you. You must stay away from such \”garbage people\” and never argue or fight with them in normal ways, because they are unreasonable and extremely paranoid. The best way is to stay away from them, continue to go your own way and do your own things, don\’t accept their garbage emotions, and don\’t pass on their garbage emotions to your relatives and friends. Youma has read a particularly good educational story that is suitable for parents to share with their children: The lion father led the little lion on the road and met a grinning mad dog. The father lion quickly took the little lion and escaped. The little lion asked in confusion: \”Dad, you are a lion. Even a leopard can\’t beat you! Why are you afraid of a mad dog? How embarrassing would it be if word spread?\” The lion\’s father smiled and said: \”My child, if I defeat you Is being a mad dog a very honorable thing? The little lion said: \”Well… no. \”The lion\’s father added: \”If I am bitten by a mad dog during a fight, will it be a loss? The little lion said: \”If you lose too much, you will get rabies!\” \”The lion\’s father said earnestly: \”In this case, why should we provoke a mad dog? \”After hearing this, the little lion suddenly understood and nodded seriously… Children, learning to control one\’s own emotions and controlling one\’s own emotions and desires is one of the basic differences between humans and animals. Wild dogs will defecate anywhere and mate in the street. Normal and healthy people will not. Emotional control and management are important topics throughout a child\’s life. As children grow up, they will always encounter difficulties, setbacks, offenses, and injustices. If they can control and manage their emotions well, , children can adjust their own state, straighten out their relationships with others, and grow up healthily. If they cannot control their emotions and never consider the consequences of doing things, they will eventually harm others and themselves. Especially adolescent children, whose mental development is very fast Immature, but with unprecedented high self-esteem and enthusiasm, it is easy to get angry due to a little stimulation, causing irreparable consequences. Emotional management and control need to be carried out from an early age. Youma has a few tips to help children manage their emotions, which may help you: (1) To accept children\’s emotions, parents must clearly understand that children losing tempers and acting out are just normal emotional expressions. Adults will be unhappy sometimes, not to mention children, so we must give children more understanding and patience. (2) Teach children to understand their own emotions. When children cry and lose their temper, parents must suppress their anger and ask their children calmly: \”Mom, you are crying. Are you angry because your toys were taken away? ?” When you express your child’s inner emotions, the child will not only feel your thoughtfulness and understanding, but also gradually realize: “So this feeling is called anger!” (3) Teach the child to release his or her emotions correctly. When you have emotions, you must find a way to release them. However, when releasing emotions, you must emphasize with your children to follow three rules: \”Don\’t hurt yourself, don\’t hurt others, and don\’t damage property.\” Under these three premises, teach Some correct ways for children to explain, such as directly telling the other person: \”I am very angry, I hope you…!\”, such as yelling three times in an empty room, etc. Respect everyone, do not look down on anyone, let alone bully the weak. The trigger of the Wuhan beheading tragedy should be the words of the noodle shop owner: \”Eat if you can afford it, don\’t eat if you can\’t afford it, get out of here!\” These few words convey contempt and contempt for the migrant worker Hu. Perhaps in the eyes of the noodle shop owner, Hu, who had to bargain for a bowl of Su Kuan Noodles that costs 4 yuan, is a poor man, a being like a stray dog ​​who can be scolded and ridiculed at will. However, Hu is a human being and has dignity. Moreover, a person like Hu who has nothing and is mentally paranoid will fight against you every minute in order to maintain his meager dignity. Those who are barefoot are not afraid of those who wear shoes. You really can\’t compete with him. Therefore, respecting everyone around you and not bullying others because of their family background, financial conditions, or physical disabilities is not only the most basic morality and upbringing of a person, but also a talisman for a stable life.