You are so busy, you should be good at teaching children.

These days, the children have begun their winter vacation. My nephew is also waiting to receive the result notification. He was full of expectations. Because he had been studying hard, his grades were among the best. But one of his friends was worried. Because my performance in the midterm exam was not ideal, my parents had already fixed it. If the requirements are not met this time, expect another scolding. When it comes to score notifications, we all have our own stories. I remember that at that time, I helped my good friend correct his scores and wrote comments. Because his parents knew his handwriting, they asked me to do it for him. I held the pen nervously and tried to make the words look like those written by an adult. Every time he got through, he thanked God. This situation lasted for two years. Later, his father found out and he was scolded along with me. We still talk about it often today. In fact, his parents would not beat or scold him because of his grades. It\’s just that he feels that his parents are already worried enough about the family, and he doesn\’t want them to worry about grades. When he was in elementary school, his scores were always hovering around the passing line. We just added a few points and he just passed. Later, when he went to middle school, he worked hard and was admitted to a key university. I\’ve always liked his parents. They always encourage their son who is hovering near the passing mark. Therefore, he said that what he was most grateful for was that his parents did not compare him with his classmates at that time. He never felt that studying was painful, and instead read a lot of extracurricular books. By the time I got to middle school, I had accumulated a lot of experience and was able to catch up easily. Every child grows at his or her own rate. For example, some children become sensible early, so they will understand the rules at a very young age. He is favored by teachers at school and pampered by adults at home. Take the matter of calling people as an example, boys are obviously inferior to girls. Every time my little niece comes to my house, she calls my grandma affectionately, \”Mother-in-law, mother-in-law.\” When she sees us going to her house, she can be heard calling her as soon as we enter the corridor. People can\’t help but praise this sensible little guy. As for the little boy who is two months older than her. No matter what we say, he will only say \”Mother-in-law!\” through his teeth without any enthusiasm. Sometimes I get very impatient while playing. Therefore, children cannot be compared with each other. Parents need to understand their children, why is this happening? So as to guide and help them well. For children who don’t like to say hello, we take the initiative to say hello to the teacher when we send them to school. When you see friends outside, you should also say hello warmly. In this way, children will learn methods from their parents. If the child doesn\’t say hello. But you scared him and said, \”Look at the classmates in your class. They all know how to say hello, and the teacher likes them. But you always act like a mute, and the teacher won\’t like it.\” what to do? The child still can\’t do it, but in his heart he believes that the teacher will not like him. So I was even more afraid of the teacher and even more afraid to say hello. In the process of raising children, the most taboo thing is to always focus on the good qualities of other people\’s children and use it to criticize your own children. Parents live a miserable life themselves, but they demand excellence from their children. There is an aunt in our hometown whose son has just entered junior high school. Every time I see her, I hear her criticize her son. He said he didn\’t study hard, took training classes, spent family money, and still didn\’t make any progress. sometimesWhen he was in a bad mood, he would scold his son for looking like a lump, and he didn\’t know who he looked like. The most talked about thing is: Why are other people’s sons so powerful? What I often talk about recently is that my son’s cousin graduated from graduate school and took the civil service examination and entered the county office. She talks to everyone she meets, and her voice is even louder in front of her son. The child always lowered his head and listened without saying a word. Every time he saw us, he never said hello and always lowered his head to avoid us. She herself is a typical example of being a pig and hoping that her children will become dragons. I have never seen her worry about her son\’s studies. When she was young, her son\’s handwriting was crooked, which she thought didn\’t look good and she got angry. Gradually I stopped caring. But every time after the exam, as soon as the notice arrived home, the door was closed, and then the heart-rending cry of the child begging for mercy could be heard from inside. Because she often stays out late playing cards, she often feeds her children instant noodles. That\’s how the lump on his face came out. The strange thing is that she is polite to outsiders, and is even more respectful to those from better families in the village. Because I often have to borrow money to play cards outside. But as soon as he got home, he had a bad face towards his son. Looking at the family of the child who passed the civil service examination, it is really a world of difference. His mother is our notoriously good one. The house is well organized, and they were the first to buy bookshelves and desks for their children. And the children’s bookshelf is filled with books. We all often borrow books to read. His mother also attaches great importance to her children\’s education. I remember one time, when I was playing at their house, my son, who had just entered first grade, said that the teacher wanted to count the sticks. She went to the mountains to find thatch with thick stems, and cut it neatly section by section with a knife. Count out 100 sticks and tie them with rubber bands. Such teaching aids are praised by mathematics teachers. And his mother also asked me to help her son with his homework. I was in fourth grade at that time. How could such a caring mother fail to raise excellent children? After so many years, the children have grown up. We can see that where your heart is, there is your gain. The best education parents can give their children is to teach by example! The famous German philosopher Jaspers wrote in \”What is Education?\” \”The essence of education means that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul awakens another soul.\” Teaching by example is greater than words, which means that to educate children well, first Educate yourself. First let yourself have correct values, a peaceful mood, and spiritual abundance in this ordinary world. Parents\’ values ​​have the greatest influence on children. Because parents’ choices and attitudes toward others are often learned by their children. For example, last time my son and I read an old textbook from the Republic of China. It said: \”My son was traveling with his father on a factory trip. He saw workers wearing clothes in tatters, and he despised them. My father said, \’All people are equal. Even though workers are poor, they should not be despised.\’\” \”Just a few words can influence the formation of children\’s values. If the parents are also arrogant to the workers. The child will only go further. Nowadays, living conditions are getting better and better. Many parents give their children the most fattening food, the most expensive clothes, the most lazy living environment, and do not let their children do any housework. I think this is love, but he was nowhere to be seen. The most important thing is missing from the education of children – teaching by example. Instead, they gathered in groups to play mahjong, watch TV, go shopping, and gossip. What is he doing, you ask? While going, busy… Once I was chatting with a classmate. He had been very busy and was working hard for his career, but he just didn\’t have time to take care of his children. I said, \”You need to spend more time with your children and work hard to educate your children.\” \”Are you kidding! I have no money, how can I educate you?\” \”For example, your son can read more picture books and play less mobile games. Watch less cartoons! Play more together.\” \”What books should you read? Look at the nerds in our unit, none of them are useful.\” \”Okay, then can you tell me your opinions?\” \”I\’m waiting for him to become a talent on his own. Isn\’t there a saying that says, \”Just wait for the flowers to bloom?\” I could only smile. I think that if you haven’t even started your career yet, you will miss out on your child’s growth. What you said about waiting for the flowers to bloom will probably give you a headache. As parents, some people are busy. They don’t know why they are busy. They just say, “I am doing it for your own good!” They think everything is for their children, but in the end they go their own way. And the child hopes that \”you are good to me, not for my good.\” Instead of saying a thousand words that I am good for you, it is better to do something good for the child seriously.