In life, especially in study, we often encounter this phenomenon. Some parents blame their children for some minor problems in study and life. Why are you so stupid? Can such a simple question be wrong? Why can\’t you do such a small thing and have no ability to take care of yourself? This kind of nagging, blaming and negative evaluation of children not only does not change the child\’s behavior, but also gets worse and worse, which is reflected in the child\’s dislike of learning. There is a saying in education: good children are praised. But many parents will only praise: You are awesome! You are really smart! You are so good! You are so obedient! Such compliments are ineffective. In the child\’s heart, \”Awesome! So smart! So awesome!\” These words sound hollow. He only knows that his parents think he is great, and he doesn\’t know what makes him great. Anyway, he is great. Over time, children will attribute the \”praise\” they receive to their \”IQ\” and lose their growth mindset. Carol Dweck, a famous psychologist at Stanford University, once conducted an experiment on praising children. She selected 400 children from 20 schools in New York, divided them into two groups, AB, and conducted a 10-year experiment on them. First, have your child complete a very simple jigsaw puzzle. Afterwards, praise \”You are very smart\” to Group A, and encourage \”You must have worked very hard just now\” to Group B. As the difficulty of the challenge increases, shocking results are obtained! Children who are often praised for their intelligence are more likely to form a \”fixed mindset\”: they believe that \”success is because of intelligence, and it has little to do with hard work.\” In order to stay smart, you will be more willing to act conservatively, and once you hit a \”bottleneck\”, you will become frustrated. Children who are often praised for their hard work are more likely to develop a \”growth mindset\” and believe that \”every time they try, they are learning something new; as long as they work hard, they can make progress.\” As the difficulty of the challenge increases, it is easier for children to gain confidence and progress. Children with a growth mindset believe that through hard work they can improve their abilities and accomplish what they want to do, so they will continue to work hard and be relatively more likely to succeed in the future. Therefore, parents must learn to praise their children, especially these 6 sentences, and learn how to praise their children into 986. If you don’t believe me, give it a try. I guarantee that within three months, your child will undergo a completely different change. 1. You are so awesome! Mom didn’t even think of a way, but you actually thought of it. This is praising the child from the perspective of divergent thinking. Praising the child in this way, the child\’s 2. The child scored 50 points in the last test, and this time it has reached the passing line. It has only been a month, and the test has increased by 10 points. You are awesome! This is to praise children from the perspective of continuous progress. 3. Baby, you bravely faced things you didn’t dare to do last time, and you did it so well. You are so good! This is to praise children from the perspective of boldness and bravery. 4. Honey, even if you make a mistake, your mother will not blame you, because I saw you take the initiative to admit your mistake and apologize as soon as possible, and you also actively find ways to make up for it. On this point, I really praise you! This is to praise children from the perspective of responsibility. 5. Baby, you actually signed up for this poetry recitation competition on your own initiative., it surprises me so much, it surprises me so much, you take the initiative to show yourself, you are so dazzling! This is to praise the child from the perspective of confidence and generosity. 6. Baby, you have really grown up. You can pack things by yourself and arrange your own time. You have completed everything you should do on time. Mom is so happy! This is to praise children from the perspective of independence. Parents should write down these six sentences and keep telling them to their children that parents\’ language can not only improve children\’s grades, but also determine their children\’s lives.
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