You have to persevere even when it hurts to the point of bursting. Why is Zhu Dan so cruel to him?

Not long ago, Zhu Dan cried sadly in a program. She said that she was in so much pain that she could not touch her even if she broke out in cold sweat. The pain was so intense that she almost exploded, but she still decided to persist. She gave up, but Zhu Dan broke down and cried. She felt that her husband not only didn\’t understand that she persisted so hard, but also discouraged her. What made Zhu Dan so painful, so painful that she burst into tears, so painful that she fell out with her husband and refused to give up? It’s a painful experience that every breastfeeding mother has experienced! Every time we see photos of mothers breastfeeding their babies, everyone always feels that they are full of maternal love and warmth. But who understands the pain and sadness involved? Just 13 days after the child was born, Zhu Dan said on Weibo: Everyone is working hard. Every mother who has experienced the pain of breastfeeding knows how bitter and difficult it is. Maybe many mothers will say, no, I started producing milk in the third trimester of pregnancy. If this is the case for you, then I really want to congratulate you. There is no doubt that you are the luckiest group. If you start having milk right after your baby is born, or if you don’t have milk at first but start lactating a few hours after your baby sucks, then you are one of the lucky ones. This is because for many mothers, the secretion of breast milk takes 1-2 days after delivery. For some mothers, it takes a little longer, and the secretion of breast milk does not begin until 3 or 4 days after delivery. Others have to wait until 5 or 6 days after the baby is born. Only left and right. I am one of the latter, and it was not until noon on the third day after delivery that I began to have my first drop of milk. The suffering and sadness of waiting cannot be described in words. I also followed the doctor\’s instructions and started letting him suck as soon as possible. But even though I asked him to suck on me frequently and switched sides, my breasts just didn\’t respond at all. I also nervously asked the doctor if there was something wrong with me. Why didn’t I have any reaction after so long? The doctor gave me a flat look and said, \”Don\’t worry, many people are like this, it\’s normal!\” The doctor told me to let the baby suck more and do more breast massage. One day passed, and two days passed. It was not until noon on the third day that I started to have milk. The self-blame, tension, guilt and suffering make every minute pass extremely long. This feeling of guilt lasted until Zaizai was 3 years old. One day I met a famous obstetrician and gynecologist in Shanghai. After chatting with her, I realized that my situation is actually common. About 50% of pregnant women have it. It takes 2-3 days after delivery, or even longer, for milk to appear! No matter how much anxiety and fatigue there is, when the nipples begin to express the first drop of breast milk, the mothers can\’t help but breathe a sigh of relief, \”I have finally entered the ranks of a \”good cow\” that can produce milk! But , the pain of breastfeeding really begins from this moment! Physiological breast engorgement is a painful process that many breastfeeding mothers will experience. In the case of physiological breast engorgement, the entire breast will be as hard as an iron plate, hard and It is distended and painful, and some mothers may even experience symptoms of fever. If the pain of giving birth is 1, the pain of breast enlargement is 100! After the physiological breast enlargement period, it does not mean that the milk volume is sufficient, Zhu Dan said In the program, she spoke with tears: When the baby was 22 days old, due to the mother’sNot enough milk causes the baby to lose weight. Zhu Dan went through tangles and struggles, and cried for two days and two nights. The moment she opened the milk powder can, tears burst into her eyes. She said to her child: Baby, I\’m sorry. Mom tried her best, but she really can\’t hold on any longer… Under one of Zhu Dan\’s Weibo posts, there was a comment like this. Some mothers said: Breastfeeding, massage, hanging feeding, soup… 365 methods to try All over. I was exhausted to the extreme, so painful that I collapsed, and I drank soup until I felt like vomiting… but there was just not enough milk! Because now almost everywhere it is publicized that the baby’s first milk after delivery must be breast milk, but such publicity has undoubtedly increased the guilt and self-blame of mothers who have difficulty secreting breast milk. Especially when no matter how hard you twist your breasts, there is no movement at all and not a drop of milk, who can truly understand the inner pain of a new mother during the waiting process? The envy, jealousy and hatred towards the big cow mother, the guilt and unwillingness towards the child, the disappointment in oneself but helplessness… Those who have experienced it will never forget it in this life. If while blaming and feeling guilty, you also have to face your husband\’s incomprehension and mother-in-law\’s rejection, the sadness, pain and helplessness will easily deepen the maternal depression. Some mothers give up breastfeeding because of lack of confidence. Although some mothers persist and finally start to produce breast milk, they encounter nipple confusion in their babies. In order to correct the baby\’s habits, they have to start another kind of suffering. After finally getting rid of these problems, what awaits us is the period of high incidence of various breast problems. Acute mastitis, cracked nipples, blocked milk… are the most common problems during lactation. Small, sunken nipples, incorrect breastfeeding posture, coupled with the baby sucking day and night, the delicate nipples will soon become skinned and bruised. Breastfeeding a baby with cracked nipples is really painful. Looking at the baby crying for feeding, everyone may have had the same reaction as Zhu Dan: Don\’t come over, slow down, take a deep breath, hold your breath, ah… every breastfeeding mother has experienced this kind of pain! Because of the need for breastfeeding, the baby must always hold the nipple. When they suck vigorously to suck the milk out of the lactiferous ducts, the nipples are often subjected to huge suction, and cracks are prone to appear on the surface. After the nipple is cracked, the baby will feel heartbreaking pain when sucking again, which is extremely painful. But no matter how painful it is, I can only endure it for the sake of my baby. Many times, the baby\’s little mouth is licking when he eats, but the mother is in pain and wants to cry. Healing, scabbing, re-sucking, bleeding, healing, scabbing… During those days, I endured and looked forward to it every day in a nightmare-like cycle. More painful than cracked nipples, and more likely to cause problems is blocked milk. A little carelessness, eating a little greasy, or the baby not emptying the breast in time after drinking milk, or the baby fell asleep and the milk swelled for a while, or even because the breastfeeding posture was incorrect or wearing inappropriate underwear Compressing the breasts, etc., can cause acute mastitis. Hard lumps appear inside the breast. It hurts so much when I touch it. Some of the lumps are so large that if you move your chest, arms, or even your entire shoulder or half of your body, the pain will be so painful that you can\’t move. Some mothers will also have a fever, which requires treatment.If left untimely, the diseased breast may even become suppurated. Because many mothers don\’t understand, they will find confinement sisters and lactation specialists to prescribe milk. Most confinement sisters and lactation specialists are trained to massage vigorously, which will make new mothers miserable, and some mothers will just bleed. Tears, while watching milk mixed with blood flow out. Zhu Dan also encountered an extremely unprofessional lactation nurse. He kneaded the breasts savagely, used hot compresses incorrectly, and used needles to pick out the blocked breast holes. The unprofessional treatment made Zhu Dan\’s condition worsen and he was unable to hold the baby for nearly two months. Really, only through experience can you understand: breast milk is obtained by the mother\’s blood and tears. Breastfeeding also means sacrificing sleep. Zhu Dan often posts on Weibo in the middle of the night: All this is to feed the baby. Ever since the baby was born, complete sleep has become a luxury. How many mothers sacrifice sleep for their babies’ food! When the baby is sleeping, I am full of energy. I finally want to sleep, but the baby wakes up again… How many days and nights pass slowly like this! Sleep was sacrificed; body shape was given up; diet was changed, and I endured the pain, with tears in my eyes, and persisted silently… Even if people around me can\’t see it, I tell you: give up! But which mother is willing to give up? Zhu Dan’s mother said to her: Forget it, we won’t feed him anymore! Zhu Dan’s husband said to her: Forget it, we won’t feed her anymore! As long as you say you don\’t want to feed me anymore, it doesn\’t matter. At this time, Zhu Dan would drag his body with pain and cry: Why don\’t you encourage me? ! I have to hold on a little longer before I completely collapse! Finally, the problems have been reduced, but the embarrassment of life has increased. When mothers are faced with the dilemma of going to work and breastfeeding, and when taking their babies out and unable to find a clean and warm nursing room, the embarrassment of breastfeeding in public is so difficult to face. Are we heartbroken when we can see some unfriendly comments just under the photos Zhu Dan posted of him breastfeeding his baby during work breaks? Sad? Sad? Sad? After going through hardships, but enjoying it with joy, this is the daily life of a breastfeeding mother. As she said in an interview with Harper\’s Bazaar magazine: \”Being a mother is difficult but also very happy. For your children to have a healthy body, it is worth it no matter how hard it is. Watching her snuggle up to me softly The contented look in your arms is the source of all strength.\” Today is Breastfeeding Awareness Day. On this special day, I would like to dedicate this document to mothers who have ever breastfed or are currently breastfeeding!