You just need to give birth to the child, you don’t need to take care of it

Xiao Lin resigned because there was no one to take care of the child. It is very common to resign because there is no one to take the child home, and there is nothing strange about it. But Xiao Lin is different. Xiaolin\’s income is about the same as that of her husband. The couple started working five years ago. From having nothing to buying a car and a house, both of them worked hard and were very frugal. Even so, they still owed hundreds of thousands in bank loans. Both of them work to make money. In addition to paying off mortgages, maintaining cars, raising children, and daily expenses, they still have a small surplus. Suddenly, the income is halved. Let alone a surplus, even normal expenses must be calculated carefully. Besides, I have to raise one more child. This feeling is like walking on the road and seeing the road getting wider and brighter. Unexpectedly, as I walked, I suddenly entered an unknown fork in the road. No matter what was waiting for me, I had to move forward bravely. There was no way out, but I couldn\’t help but be filled with anxiety and worry. Xiao Lin came from hard times. The reason why I work hard and make money is because I don’t want to follow the same old path again. Ten years ago, Xiao Lin and her husband registered their marriage in their hometown. At that time, the family conditions of both parties were not very good. Fortunately, both of them have stable jobs. Although their incomes are average, as long as they live a good life, with the house prices in their hometown at that time, there will be no problem in buying a house in a few years. One year after getting married, Xiao Lin became pregnant. My husband and mother-in-law were very happy when they learned about the pregnancy. My mother-in-law said, I will help you take care of the child after the birth, and you two will work hard. Xiao Lin was grateful to her mother-in-law from the bottom of her heart. At the same time, she also felt that her mother-in-law raising her grandson was a matter of course, without any suspense. Just like when her mother-in-law gets old, she should take good care of her. This is the case with \”normal families\” all around. After giving birth to a daughter, the mother-in-law, who was originally full of expectations and enthusiasm, saw that she had given birth to a granddaughter, and her face turned from sunny to cloudy in an instant. Yuezi still waited on her, but there was disappointment in her eyes, words, and expression. Women are all sensitive, and women in confinement are even more sensitive. I couldn\’t help but feel depressed for no reason, let alone face the drastic change in my mother-in-law\’s temperament. After confinement, my mother-in-law returned to her home five kilometers away on the pretext that she had too many things to do at home. She came over for ten and a half days to visit Xiao Lin and the child, just like visiting relatives. Originally there was nothing wrong with this, but Xiaolin had to go to work after her maternity leave. What was originally said was, \”When you give birth to a child, I will take care of it for you, and you work hard.\” Later it became, \”The child is your own, and I have no obligation to take care of it for you.\” There is nothing wrong with that. But Xiao Lin felt very uncomfortable. In a small county town, it is difficult to hire a suitable nanny. Even if you find a relative like your second aunt\’s sister-in-law\’s sister-in-law\’s cousin, it may not be reliable, but the salary will soon catch up with Xiaolin\’s salary. As soon as the couple figured it out, Xiaolin should resign and go home to take care of the children. In this way, Xiaolin began her three-year life as a stay-at-home mother. The family of three barely survives on the income of Xiao Lin\’s husband. The house is still out of reach. It was not easy until the child was three years old and went to kindergarten. Xiao Lin persuaded her husband to work together in the southern city where his classmates lived. In this way, a family of three began a difficult migration life. After five years, they finally took root and settled in the new city through their own efforts. The children are in primary school, and the couple\’s income is also rising. At this time, the country relaxedTwo-child policy. Xiaolin\’s former relatives, friends and neighbors all gave birth to their second child. Xiao Lin\’s husband and mother-in-law also hope that Xiao Lin will have another child. But Xiao Lin didn\’t want to give birth. In fact, it’s not that I don’t want to, it’s that objective conditions don’t allow it to happen. The first question is, who will take care of the child after birth? The mother-in-law said that she would take care of him as long as Xiaolin was born. Her husband also advised her that the two children will have a companion, and my mother will take care of them when the time comes. You don’t have to worry, as long as they are born. It\’s okay not to go back to my hometown. Once I go back to my hometown, the sound of birth can\’t be heard. It seems that if you don\’t have a second child, it will be a sin. It seems that if you don\’t have a second child, your life will be impossible. It seems that if you don\’t have a second child, your life will be hopeless. Xiao Lin could still withstand the pressure, but her husband couldn\’t hold his temper any longer. He half-coerced and half-truthfully said, \”Our family is a single generation, and now we have the opportunity to have a second child. Wouldn\’t it be great to have another child?\” Anyway, my mother will help take care of her after she is born, so you can just go to your classes and work will not be delayed. It’s great to have another child! Xiao Lin said, your mother said the same thing at the beginning. What was the result? It’s not like I took it by myself for three years. Xiao Lin\’s husband said, if you are worried, let\’s sign an agreement this time. You are responsible for giving birth, I am responsible for making money, and my mother is responsible for raising children. I don’t know why, but Xiao Lin still gave birth to a second child, a son. The whole family is happy. However, a new problem came. My mother-in-law was old, her memory was declining, and her physical condition was not very good. It\’s okay to cook a meal, but I can\’t remember how many spoonfuls of milk powder I made, and I\’m so tired that I\’m out of breath after holding the baby for a while. After only a few days, I kept complaining that it was too tiring to take care of a child. I am old and I am not used to living here. I want to go back to my hometown. A primary school student who needs help with homework, a baby who is waiting to be fed, a husband who has never seen the end of his life, and a mother-in-law who wants to go back to her hometown every day. Xiao Lin\’s heart was so anxious that he collapsed. After countless sleepless nights, Xiao Lin was forced to resign. Sacrifice one person to build a family. New conflicts and pressures have turned into economic problems. In the era of second children, the biggest scaremongering is \”you only need to give birth to the child, you don\’t have to take care of it.\” Promises are sometimes just made casually. What can you do if you don\’t keep them? You are the biological mother of your child. Others can hug and change diapers. Can others breastfeed on your behalf? You said I don’t breastfeed, I feed milk powder, but do I want parent-child companionship? If you don\’t care about the child you gave birth to when the child cries at night, your innate maternal nature won\’t allow you to care either. If you are so cruel that you let it go since you were a child, it will definitely become a pain that you will never be able to get rid of in your life. Because you owe him and there is no chance to make up for it. When it comes to matters of childbearing and childbirth, anyone\’s (including your husband\’s) rhetoric is like a flower in the mirror and a moon in the water. You are the mastermind, others can only be accomplices, because you are the mother. The child comes into this world through your belly, and everything about him will be closely related to you. If you don’t plan to have a baby, you must be able to withstand the pressure and defend yourself from the sugar-coated bullets, unless you are willing to welcome the arrival of new life. Those who have already given birth should open their hearts to welcome the arrival of new life. No matter how difficult the days are right now, you have to believe that the clouds will eventually clear and the moon will shine. If the person who promised you helps, please be grateful. If you quit halfway, no complaints. Because your child only calls you \”Mom\”.