You must accompany your children with high quality: if you do this for 10 minutes every day, you will understand your children better.

Many readers and friends have left messages, asking how you can spend so much time with your children. You don’t have to do housework or go to work… Today I would like to share with you something that I have been doing for 2 years: chatting with my children before going to bed. – A study at MIT found that chatting between parents and children has an impact on brain development – ​​children who talk more have more active Broca’s area of ​​the brain. This area is responsible for language development and is also related to the brain’s memory and recognition. Related to intellectual ability. I thought this was a trivial matter not worth mentioning, but seeing this sentence gave me a strong desire to share it. Ever since my child was very young, I would talk nonsense to him every day before going to bed. At that time, he could not speak, so I would talk to myself. 1. Chatting is nonsense. Many children say: Mom only cares about grades, and three sentences are inseparable from learning. Indeed, education is too complicated now, and I understand the mood of mothers too well. Maybe the first thing you say when you get home from school is to do your homework…or to reason with your children, and these children don\’t like to hear it at all. You can ask the child, \”What funny thing happened in the class today? The leaves turned yellow overnight.\”… The child is willing to open up and chat with us, which shows that the child trusts us. Chatting is not preaching. Talking nonsense with your children will make the parent-child relationship closer and less frivolous. 2. Listen patiently to your children\’s chat. The first step is to listen to your children, listen more and talk less, and let your children express themselves to their heart\’s content. My teammate sometimes sends messages to help the child cope. The child can feel it. Once my son asked him, Dad, did you listen to me? ✪ω✪ The child is very smart. He looked at the child while chatting. Listen carefully to what your child says. Secondly, it is necessary to empathize and accept the child, so that the child feels that the mother understands me, so that the child is willing to express it. For example, the teacher criticized me today and I was very unhappy. If you say that you must have done something wrong somewhere before the teacher criticizes you, will the child be willing to continue talking? If you say, mom can understand that being criticized by the teacher is really upsetting, I would be sad too. 3. Ask specific questions. The questions are too broad and abstract. The child does not know how to express them and cannot open up the child\’s conversation box. For example, what do you think of the teacher? fine. Are you happy? happy. The questions should be small and specific, so that the child can have something to say, and the topic can be discussed in more depth, so that the child can understand the child better. For example, I will ask my son: Which child did you have fun with today, and what games did you play? 4. Talk more about positive topics. People\’s mood is often affected by the surrounding environment, so be a positive person. Especially when my son just entered kindergarten, his separation anxiety was very serious and he went to school crying every day. Therefore, after school, I asked him, what kind of food is the best in kindergarten? What is the happiest thing for you? …instead of asking if you cried? Have any children bullied you? Care about children from a positive perspective, let them learn to pay attention to interesting things in school life, and develop a positive and optimistic attitude towards life. Finally, I make a summary at the end of every day\’s chat, mainly to encourage and praise the child, and at the same time express my unconditional love for him. For example, Yiyi is here todayI found a new friend *** in kindergarten, and I had a lot of fun. You are brave enough to meet new friends, and your social skills are getting better and better. Good friends are not fixed. It’s great to get to know a few more. Yiyi is awesome! Mom believes in you and will have fun with more children in the future. Mom loves you and you are her best child. – Being a parent has an expiration date. Chatting is a good way to get to know your children. Talk nonsense with your children when they are still young, establish a good parent-child relationship, and accompany your children to grow up healthily. The parent-child relationship is more important than anything else. If the parent-child relationship is good, education will get twice the result with half the effort. There is still a long way to go to raise children, and I hope we can go together and communicate with each other.