You must have said this before when your child was frightened too much by one sentence.

Have you ever said this to your child when he or she disobeyed? \”If you don\’t obey again, I will call the police to arrest you!\” \”The old witch specializes in feeding children who don\’t eat well.\” \”If you don\’t go to bed so late, a ghost will come out to catch you later!\” This trick is really useful. With just a little scare, the child will immediately become obedient. But you may not have thought that this scare will leave a terrible shadow on your children, and even affect them for a lifetime! Intimidation affects children\’s growth. Recently, a friend\’s child couldn\’t sleep well at night, often had nightmares, and cried and screamed every time he woke up. It\’s not a lack of calcium or trace elements. It feels like the spirit has been stimulated… The upset friend was very puzzled. Could it be that he was frightened by something? But he usually pays attention to it, even Bald Qiang and Pleasant Goat would try not to let them see them, so how did they get scared? After further questioning, it turned out that the child\’s grandmother often threatened her: \”If you don\’t eat well, the old witch will come to arrest you, and then you will never see your mother again!\” The child believed it, but was very frightened. Every time I ate, I would swallow it without even chewing it. I always had nightmares when I slept at night, and several times I even developed a high fever in the middle of the night. Doctors remind that when a child is frightened, the nerve center will be stimulated, and the fearful emotion will remain. This will affect the child\’s endocrine, leading to slow growth, indigestion, fever and other diseases! Intimidation destroys children\’s sense of security. A relative has a 5-year-old boy who is very naughty and loves to get into trouble. Every time the child got into trouble, the mother would say, \”I\’ll leave you to be raised by beggars!\” Another time the child got into trouble, the mother got so angry that she actually threw the child on the street and walked away. The child thought that his mother really didn\’t want him anymore, so he cried and chased: \”Mom, don\’t go. I won\’t be naughty anymore.\” Any mother can understand the feeling of being so angry and frustrated, but if you think about it calmly, you must treat her like this. Not allowed for children? From the moment a child is born, he will always worry that his parents will not want him or her. In psychology, this is called \”basic uneasiness.\” If parents often tell their children \”don\’t want him/her\”, it will aggravate their worries, which will cause many adverse consequences. In mild cases, children will no longer be close to their parents, and in severe cases, they may commit suicide! Intimidation causes children to form wrong perceptions. I believe everyone has read the news about a mother who liked to scare her children with \”the police are coming to arrest you\”. As a result, the children got lost and did not dare to ask the police for help because they were afraid of the police. Parents often tell their children to \”tell the teacher\” and \”let the police arrest you\”, which will make the children mistakenly think that the teachers and police are bad people, causing the children to not dare to ask them for help when they are in danger. Isn\’t it counterproductive? There are also some parents who like to scare their children by talking about ghosts, old witches, and monsters. You think you are just talking casually, but the children think it is true, okay? Children’s first knowledge of the world comes from their parents, and they believe everything their parents tell them to do. Once such a misconception is formed, it is difficult to correct it. There are many ways to do this other than scaring. When children are disobedient, scare them and they will immediately stop making trouble. If this method is used for a long time, when the children grow up and become more sensible, they will no longerBelieve mom and dad’s “nonsense”. If you try to reason with them when the time comes, don\’t blame them for not listening. Educating children should not use the tricky method of \”scare\”, but should use more patience and reason with them.