You think you are a full-time mother, but he thinks you are a full-time nanny

In order for their children to have a good life background, many women quit the workplace and became full-time mothers, but they were regarded as full-time nannies by men… Juaner fell out with her husband again. The reason was that Juan\’er wanted to sign herself up for a dance training class. Her husband not only disagreed, but also gave her a few words, telling her to take good care of her children more than anything else, to study more nutritious recipes for her children, and to stay calm. Just go to the hospital when you are sick. \”Besides, if you, a mother, go to learn to dance, who will watch the child?\” Juan\’er was furious, \”I take care of the child from morning to night, so you can\’t watch it for an hour after work in the evening and let me dance to get some fresh air. ?\” \”You\’re not at work, so you should do these things. I haven\’t told you yet, you can\’t even raise a child! Look at the son you raised. He doesn\’t eat well, is prone to getting sick, and is prone to losing his temper. I don’t know what you do all day long.” His subtext was: First do everything a housewife should do perfectly, and then come and discuss with me what you want to do. Because at this time, you are first of all an ordinary woman taking care of your children at home, and secondly you are yourself. What he wants from you is: live well, take care of your children, and take care of your home. If you want to improve your quality of life, I\’m sorry, but you don\’t know how expensive firewood and rice are if you don\’t make money; if you want to spend some money to make yourself happy, then you have to make me happy first. However, being an ordinary woman who has lost the initiative in life and takes care of her children at home is not all he expects from you. You quit your job and go home because you want to spend more time with your children, but he thinks that you should do everything, including cooking, mopping the floor, cleaning toilets, and of course spending time with your children. You are washing the dishes and mopping the floor, and your child is walking behind you and chatting. He is lying on the sofa and watching TV; you are giving your child a bath, and he is playing games with netizens in the study; you are telling your child a bedtime story, and he is having a good time. Scroll through Moments. If you offer me a helping hand, they won\’t even raise their eyebrows and reply: \”I\’m busy without noticing. I\’m exhausted from work during the day. Please let me relax.\” You\’ve done all the nanny\’s work, and you\’ve done all the mother\’s work. As for dad, well, I\’m already making money to support a large family, and you still want me to sweep the floor, so why do you want me to be a wife? If you want to make trouble with him, his temper will be louder than yours, and his expression will be more aggrieved than yours: Who doesn’t want to maintain this family? Do you think men are eating, drinking and having fun outside? What women have to do is support and help each other. This is family. . If you feel that being a \”full-time mother\” is a year-round job with no support or backup, hard work and no pay, then the most unfortunate thing is that in this job, your husband is often more demanding than your boss. You think you are a full-time mother, but he holds you to the standards of a full-time nanny. And, feel at ease. After all, before Juaner became a stay-at-home mother, she was a sales manager of a foreign company with a monthly salary of tens of thousands, but now she is reduced to the point where her husband scolds her even if she wants to learn to dance, and the other party does not give her any chance to refute. You can never truly live the life you want if you rely on others. She sent her child to daycare early, persuaded her husband to take her parents-in-law over, and started looking for a job non-stop. Maybe after going to work, she will still do most of the housework, but at least she has the confidence to ask the other party to share the responsibility. On March 8th, Juaner and I had a dinner together.Without her husband and children, she ordered a few signature dishes and a bottle of red wine to celebrate that Juan\’er had found a well-paying job and could now wear makeup and high heels and ride on the battlefield. Juaner said with emotion: Who would have thought that my original intention of returning to the workplace was just to make money and enroll myself in a hobby class? I said I could understand her. In the future, she can not only learn dance, but also piano and painting, and can take any class she wants. When you don’t want to cook, take your children to the hotel buffet; when you don’t want to clean the room, just say you are tired and don’t want to move; when you are on vacation, fly alone to places you have never been to. Ah, the word \”vacation\” sounds so strange and happy at the same time! I have never been treated like this when I was raising children. Juaner was so excited when she heard that she stood up and toasted me: To our courage and to our new life, cheers! There was once an article about \”My Wife Doesn\’t Have a Job\”. It talked about a wife who had to get up at 5 o\’clock in the morning to clean the room and make breakfast, then send the children to school. Then she went to buy groceries, go home, wash and cook, and then prepare dinner and take care of them in the evening. The children eat, the dishes are washed after meals, and the children are put to bed. The only thing this husband needs to do after returning home from the office is to rest. He said that he was very tired after a day\’s work. Others asked him: Why does your wife do all these things? Husband replied: Because she has no job, she is just a housewife. Yes, in the eyes of most husbands, if the wife does not have a job, she should be responsible for all household chores except work. One person, every day, never-ending, endless. Because we understand, we are compassionate. As a stay-at-home mom, I can understand your hardships outside the home because I have also experienced workplace struggles. But you treat me as a full-time nanny, lazy, contemptuous, indifferent, and even disgusted. Maybe when it comes to raising children, you will never wait for his empathy, and you can only know whether you are warm or cold. So, girl, let’s not be stupid, okay? Create all the conditions to go to work and make money. You will soon find that at critical moments, your job is more reliable than your husband.