\”You will soon be the father of mobile phones\” – this child\’s wish made countless mothers cry

In the past few days, many friends in the circle of friends have been forwarding this video. The farthest distance in the world is when I am by your side while you are playing with your phone. This is absolutely true. In a Chinese language test, the title of the composition for the fourth grade of a primary school in Danzhou City was: \”××, I want to say to you.\” The boy Xiaorong wrote such an essay – \”Dad, I have always wanted to say to you. : Play with me for a while. Whenever I see other people’s dads taking them out to play, I am so envious. I will only see you playing with your mobile phone, playing with your mobile phone. You will only be able to play with your mobile phone. You are already fast. He is no longer my father, you are almost the father of the mobile phone.\” As a mother, my eyes turned red when I saw this sentence – regarding companionship, I know very well how important it is, for example, I have written about companionship before Push notifications: \”Parenting | Turn off the phone at eight o\’clock every night because I\’m afraid it will be too late\” \”Do these 5 things and you will no longer be afraid of not having time to spend with your children\” (click on the article title to view). But facing the reality of hurting children so deeply, I still feel that words are a bit weak. In addition, the tragedies caused by mobile phones have never stopped, and news is endless. Today\’s Tencent News headlines report another story about a mother who lost her 8-year-old daughter forever due to negligence – at 15:30 on April 16, in a small lake in a park near the intersection of Huancheng North Road and Huancheng East Road in Hangzhou , a little girl fell in. The 8-year-old girl eventually died. The adults were playing with their mobile phones when the incident occurred. If nothing had happened, no one would have thought that looking at the calm lake would kill an 8-year-old girl. Yes, many people think that accidents will never happen to them, so they keep taking chances until someone around them encounters something similar. For example, a friend just got out of the subway and was checking his phone to reply to messages while walking. Suddenly, she heard a scream in front of her, raised her head and saw a girl squatting on the ground covering her face. The friend walked up to the girl and saw the blood flowing out of her fingers. He was frightened and asked repeatedly: \”What\’s wrong with you? Is it okay?\” The girl was looking at her phone while walking and didn\’t pay attention to the telephone pole in front of her. His face was hit hard, his nose bleeding all over his face, and there were no tissues on his body. The kind friend handed her stickers and wipes, and then turned away after confirming that she was fine. After that, my friend gave up the habit of looking at his phone while walking. \”Replying many messages a few minutes late does not affect business activities. There is no need to know a lot of news immediately, and there is no need to pretend that we are busy. However, for a long time, we have even forgotten safety first.\” Similar things, I have also seen it with my own eyes – a delivery boy, driving a tricycle and answering the phone at the same time. When he turned the corner, he didn\’t pay attention to the children on the road and almost hit him. The child was so frightened that he froze there, and the younger brother also froze there, breaking out in a cold sweat. If an accident happens, two families may be ruined. For example, friend B returns to his hometown from Beijing to visit his parents every month. He leaves on Friday and comes back on Sunday every time. He is a filial son in the eyes of his relatives and friends. But one time, B was kicked back by his father. The reason was: \”Going home would be the same as never coming back. It would be better not to come back. Your mother would have to repeat everything she said to you several times.I don’t know if there is gold or silver in the phone! \”Does this scene sound familiar? There is a gathering of relatives and friends, and everyone is sitting at a full table. There is a lot less gossip, and more of them are \”grabbing red envelopes\” one after another, or the elderly are busy forwarding various \”health posts\” \”, the young man was busy replying to work text messages. I feel that I pay attention to the frequency of checking my mobile phone. Last time I went home, my mother robbed me of a meal: \”You can\’t spend time with your mother while you are eating and holding a mobile phone. Have a bowl of porridge! \”For example, if we don\’t work overtime on weekends, we tend to \”spend wholeheartedly with our children.\” Taking them to the suburbs and having fun on the grass without danger will give parents free time to check Moments. Take them to the playground, because Parents cannot go in to accompany them, and there will be a circle of fathers or mothers outside the playground with their heads down and scrolling through the screen… So the children bump into each other and have conflicts with other children. Many times we don’t know the reason or who is right or wrong. , I don’t know whether the first thing I should do is apologize or question. So, the dispute arises in this confusion. Everyone longs to be treated wholeheartedly, children like this, old people like it, and friends like it too. So, seeing today After the news, I reflected again and put forward the \”mobile phone management rules\”, and discussed with Zhe\’s father to implement them: when the child is at home, make sure there is someone who puts down the phone and concentrate on accompanying him; when the child goes out, make sure there is someone who puts down the phone so that the child can stay with him forever. Within your own sight; when accompanying the elderly, put down your mobile phone and concentrate on replying to work WeChat messages every two hours; during working hours, put down your mobile phone and concentrate on replying to WeChat messages every hour without being interrupted, so as to be more efficient; when gathering with friends, put it down Use your mobile phone and concentrate on replying to WeChat messages every two hours, and concentrate on communicating with friends the rest of the time. Do not look at your mobile phone when you need to focus, such as walking, driving, riding a bicycle, or taking an elevator.