You won’t be able to be husband and wife after becoming parents? After my children go to school, I no longer know how to be a parent.

A few days ago, the parent examination questions for Shanghai\’s primary school students were circulated on the Internet, which made me tremble and break out in cold sweat. My first reaction is: If I were in Shanghai and had a mother who was a lousy math student like me, my son would be completely out of school! I really can\’t do any of those logic questions. As a person who has been illiterate in science for ten thousand years, I hate this kind of question the most in my life, \”Ghost Drawing Talisman\”. It turns out that even those with low IQ are not worthy of having children… Last week on a business trip, I heard from a colleague that she had a friend in Shanghai who wanted to send her daughter to a better private primary school. The first step in the parent exam is to fill in the question \”Are you a stay-at-home mother?\” She was a little embarrassed to write at first, fearing that the teacher would think that her mother didn\’t work or was not good enough, but later she found that this was not the case at all. Being a full-time mother first means that your children have favorable financial conditions and do not need you to work to make money. Moreover, being a full-time mother means that you have enough time and energy to devote to your children\’s education, and you can fully cooperate with the work required by the school. Therefore, children whose mothers cannot work full-time will not be considered by the school at all… A friend said: She has cried countless times in the past few years due to the depression of working full-time, but this time, she was so happy that she wanted to cry. In addition, in addition to paying hundreds of thousands of tuition fees every year, they also have to pay an additional sponsorship fee ranging from 300,000 to 500,000 yuan. They also have to buy a higher-end imported car. On the day of their daughter’s interview, they even went out to buy it for their daughter. I bought a complete set of Burberry children\’s clothing…I was so shocked that I couldn\’t close my mouth. How difficult it is to be a parent now. I once reposted a popular article on the Internet \”After we become parents, we will no longer be husband and wife.\” A reader left a message for me: \”Oh, after our children go to school, we won\’t even be parents anymore, we will still be husband and wife!\” Let me go, do you want to be so heart-wrenching! She said: Ever since her children went to school, she felt more and more like an illiterate. When children learn English, they have to take a video of reading aloud and send it to the teacher every night, and parents must correct the pronunciation. When learning piano on weekends, the teacher asks parents to learn it together. In fact, the teacher teaches the parents first, and then lets the parents go home to help their children. She also has to learn the staff from scratch. She originally wanted to enroll her daughter in ballet, but she was afraid that the teacher would ask her parents to do the splits together, which would kill her. It makes me laugh when I hear it, but it makes me sad when I think about it. This society\’s requirements for parents are to be efficient and versatile. To be honest, since my little baby went to school, I have questioned myself countless times. The first grade in my imagination is just learning AOE, 1+1=2 and so on. How difficult is it? Do parents still need to worry? Before I finished the first semester, I was slapped in the face by myself. The teacher said that first and second grade are important stages for developing study habits, and parents should try their best to accompany them in reading and writing homework. So every night, my father and I did nothing but took turns checking his homework, practicing oral arithmetic, dictation, and signing. Then, you have to read, practice calligraphy, listen to English, and memorize ancient poems. Practicing calligraphy is very simple, just write one or two pages every day. To develop a reading habit, just 30 minutes every night is enough. It’s not troublesome to practice listening. Just listen for 15-20 minutes every day. It doesn’t take much to memorize ancient poems, just teach one poem every day. It all sounds so easy, but when you add it all up, it\’s almost nine o\’clock in the evening. More importantly, the pronunciation and writing of some wordsThe order of drawing and English spelling are all different from what we learned before. I had to ask my children for advice, check with the teacher, and learn everything from scratch. I realized that I would no longer be a parent. Once in the company\’s copy room, my colleague said frustratedly: \”It\’s really tiring, 5+2=7, it won\’t matter if I change it to 2+5. How could I raise such a stupid child.\” There is also a full-time employee. My mother’s girlfriend said that her daughter’s grades were at the bottom of the class. She looked dejected: “You said that working parents are just busy. I don’t go to work every day, and I can’t even teach a first-grade kid well. Anyway, I took the exam. A medium level is fine!\” Another friend, who accompanies his children to do homework every day, has to go through a process from smiling face to ferocious face, from speaking softly to roaring like a lion from Hedong. She said: I remind myself every time that I must exercise restraint, restraint, and restraint again and again, but when I see my child’s handwriting looking like a crawling dog, teaching it three times, it’s still wrong, correcting a word three times, and turning a good book into rotten dog meat, those Anger, frustration, and feelings of powerlessness came all at once and destroyed her patience. It turns out that everyone’s “mourning” is similar. On this road, who has not become a parent for the first time, and who has never questioned that life is decadent and crazy. I used to think that I wouldn\’t care too much about my children\’s grades, nor would I compare myself with other people\’s children. After I went to school, I found that it was really difficult to do this. Every day, the teacher posts in the parent QQ group and WeChat group: Which students have all the dictation correct this time, and who has perfect score today. What parent doesn’t rush to find his or her child’s name? One day I heard the teacher mention: A certain classmate can already recite \”Preface to Prince Teng\’s Pavilion\”, and a certain classmate won the prize in the English competition. People never say that your child is not outstanding, but your child is never included in the list of praises for excellence. Are you saying that parents don\’t care at all? That\’s a lie. After talking to many friends, I found that a large number of parents are collectively anxious. Why have I heard so many truths but still haven’t lived a good life raising children? In the final analysis, it is us who live in too panic in this society where we are fighting for our parents. We say that as long as he is healthy and happy, we secretly hope that he will excel in everything. The ones who are awkward and contradictory are obviously us. We are the ones who need to learn more than our children. We need to relearn how to be parents – not just asking our children to grow, but growing with them. For children, respect individuality and accept differences. Take it easy on yourself and overcome your anxiety. A few days ago, when my son came home and memorized an English text, he suddenly asked me: How do you say \”giraffe\” in English? I scratched my head and thought about it for a long time, but I really didn’t know how, so I could only humbly ask him for advice. He taught me very carefully on the small whiteboard: g-i-r-a-f-f-e, giraffe. I was very moved. Children\’s thirst for knowledge and learning ability are actually far beyond our imagination. As parents, we must turn those useless anxieties and worries into actions – set an example for our children by setting an example, go all out to support them, and satisfy our children\’s thirst for knowledge.