Your baby becomes silent, you need to know this hidden secret of growth!

Some time ago, Sisi, who was in the upper class in kindergarten, was \”complained\” by her class teacher, Teacher Wen! The reason is: Sisi didn’t answer the teacher’s questions in class, and no matter what the teacher asked, Sisi acted as if she hadn’t heard and kept silent from beginning to end. Sisi\’s mother on the other end of the phone was completely confused. Her daughter had always been a very polite child, how could she do such a thing? In fact, this situation often occurs in preschool babies. Some babies, not to mention in front of outsiders, even in front of their own mothers, are indifferent and don\’t even look back – they play with toys, mobile phones, listen to music and watch TV by themselves… so mom I collapsed. Is the baby ignoring me on purpose, or is there something wrong with his hearing? Isn\’t it a sign of \”autism\”? ! Why do babies ignore people? Mom, don\’t judge on your own. Today, my cousin (ID: kexueyuer2013) is here to talk about this matter for everyone. Why does the baby ignore people? 1. Babies focusing on things they are interested in are different from adults\’ \”multitasking\”. Children can only focus on one thing at a time. Especially babies over 3 years old already have the concept of \”I\”, and their self-awareness begins to take over. It is normal for them to avoid unfamiliar environments and people. Moreover, babies at this time will focus more on new and interesting things around them, so they cannot respond. First, their attention is too concentrated to respond quickly after hearing your words; second, what you said and did did not successfully attract their attention, and they naturally \”blocked\” you. Stable duration of children\’s attention: Under 1 year old: Only the ability to pay attention momentarily, and the time of concentration is no more than 15 seconds. 1-2 years old: Start to have their own points of interest, but they often only notice what they choose. Activities, and the concentration time is less than 3 minutes. 2-3 years old: Their hands-on ability begins to increase, but they need to complete one piece at a time, which is difficult to complete at the same time, and they can only concentrate for 3-5 minutes. However, when playing games with others, their attention can last up to 20 minutes. 4 years old: can concentrate for 10 minutes. 5-6 years old: can concentrate for about 15 minutes. But in games with others, their attention span can reach 96 minutes. 2 Parents have not set a good example. We all know that parents are their children’s first and best teachers. Parents’ words and deeds deeply affect their children’s words. One line. Children like to imitate, so parents should pay attention. The reason why your children ignore you is probably because you have violated these bottom lines: Always criticize your children. Many parents will become angry when they see their children not answering other people\’s questions or refusing to speak. If you think your child is rude and has done something wrong, you will beat and scold your child in public. As everyone knows, this will not only make the child lose face, but also hurt the child\’s self-esteem and pain, so the child will become even more unkind to others. Please click here to enter a picture description. The correct approach is: you should patiently guide your children. You can tell your children some short stories about how to treat others in advance, or ask: \”Should children say hello or should they ignore guests when they see them?\” You can also go home afterwards.When you are quiet, ask: \”Why don\’t you answer when people say hello to you? Are you uncomfortable?\” Instead of asking: \”Why don\’t you answer when people ask you questions?\” In fact, some simple words of encouragement can help children Take the first step to communicate. Ignoring children In fact, if parents do not respond to their children\’s calls, children will see this and gradually imitate their parents\’ behavior of not responding in time. Do you still remember Sisi’s story at the beginning? Sisi\’s mother went to ask her daughter after receiving a call from the teacher. After a series of patient inquiries, Sisi finally revealed the reason for the incident while sobbing. \”Mom, are you unhappy when I ignore you?\” \”Are you also unhappy when I don\’t talk to you seriously when I\’m watching TV?\” \”Mom, I\’m often unhappy too! Mom , you always work overtime and have no time to play with me.\” \”When you play with me, you are also playing with your mobile phone! You are like \’um\’ and \’ah\’ to me!\” Then Sisi\’s mother finally understood that her daughter was ignoring her. Man, because he just ignores his daughter. So when you, as a parent, are checking Moments and responding to your child with perfunctory \”eh\” and \”oh\”, please think about the problem from your child\’s perspective. How would you feel if your identities were swapped? How to get your baby to respond in time? 1. \”See\” children. We talked about the limitation of children\’s attention development earlier, so when children are focusing on something, do not talk to them. If you need to talk or want to interact with your children, you can go to them. Communicate face to face. It should be noted that when communicating with children, the eyes of adults and children should be at the same level. Eye gaze is very important. Your eyes represent that you are paying attention to him and care about him, and then the child will also pay attention to you. In addition, rich and interesting intonations, child-like expressions of joy, anger, sorrow, and exaggerated and clumsy movements will successfully attract children\’s attention. 2. Read and understand children. As a parent, you must respond to your child\’s needs sensitively and promptly in the first place. For example, when your child calls you, you should first put down what you are doing and answer the call in time. Over time, children will also imitate their parents and actively respond to the calls of others. Secondly, give your children more encouragement and praise, and less criticism and scolding. It\’s okay to criticize your child, but the purpose is to get him to correct his mistakes. Don\’t hurt your child by being \”verbal\” for a while. In fact, it is not a serious matter for your baby to ignore others. As long as you \”see\” the child, understand the child, understand the child with your heart, and respect the child, you will become a \”good friend\” with whom you can talk about everything!