Your child is also what others call “other people’s children”!

Xiao Xi has a very good best friend who was our former neighbor. The two children have been hanging out together almost every day since they met when they were two or three years old, until we moved separately a few years ago. When Xiao Xi plays with other children, there will inevitably be some disputes, and occasionally they will quarrel and get angry. For example, both children like the pink doll, but neither wants the blue one, so they are unhappy. And this little best friend and Xiao Xi almost never blush because they are different in every way. Xiao Xi is a chronic person, and her best friend is impatient; Xiao Xi likes pink and rose red, and her best friend likes blue and purple; Xiao Xi likes to wear skirts and small leather shoes, but her best friend never wears skirts, only sneakers; Xiao Xi doesn\’t like sports, My best friend is an athlete… At first I was confused, how could two children with such huge differences play together? Later I realized that it was because the two of them never had any conflicts when choosing what they liked. Our two families had moved to new homes two years ago. In order to reunite our best friends, we made an appointment to go to the Science and Technology Museum together. I took Xiao Nuo there, and my best friend’s grandparents accompanied me. During lunch, my best friend ate very quickly and was about to finish her meal, while Xiao Xi\’s food was only a little bit gone. As an impatient mother, I was about to urge Xiao Xi to eat faster, but I heard the grandma sitting next to me saying to my bestie: \”Don\’t eat so fast. Look at how good other people eat. Chewing slowly is a good habit.\” !\” My best friend\’s grandfather also echoed. My jaw dropped in shock! He was speechless and speechless. What seemed like a bad habit of procrastinating and wasting time in my eyes turned into a good habit of chewing slowly in the eyes of my best friend and grandma! The \”quick eating movements\” that I envied so much were, in their eyes, a small shortcoming that needed to be corrected! So, is it possible that my best friend’s athletic talents, which make me drool with envy and jealousy, will be criticized like this: “Don’t climb high and low all day long, you don’t look like a little girl at all. Look at her, she is such a lady”? No wonder the more I see their little girl, the more I like her. Is it possible that they also view my Xiaoxi the same way? A friend\’s son who is the same age as Xiao Xi is simply the \”perfect child\” in my eyes: his grades are super good, how good is he? Needless to say, he is among the top three in the class, and he often ranks among the top in his grade. He writes very good essays, and often takes 100 points in English. He is read in the class every morning. A perennial class cadre, collecting homework, helping teachers to correct homework, supervising other children to do eye exercises, etc. He has won several school-level awards and even a district-level certificate. Representing the school in various competitions… I also have a strong ability to take care of myself. Every time new books are distributed at the beginning of the school year, I pack the books by myself. After packing, I pack my schoolbag before going out to play. I usually tidy my room and put away my things. These advantages are basically the direction that my Xiaoxi needs to improve. Therefore, every time I see his news in the circle of friends, I want to lick the screen. One time, I was talking to a friend on the phone about my children. I kept praising her son and humbly learning from her. Unexpectedly, she sighed and said that her son also had a lot of problems and was very upset! I was extremely surprised. What problems could such an outstanding child have? A friend said her son has a bad temper, gets angry if something goes wrong at home, has a bad attitude towards parents, is ungrateful, disrespects elders, grandparents came here some time ago, and they are not very happy with the children. He also said that the child could not get along with classmates, often did not consider other people\’s face, and criticized people in public. Last time he was selected as an outstanding student leader, many people did not vote for him. And usually I don’t like reading, I like playing video games, I don’t like sports, I am getting fatter and fatter… My friend praised Xiaoxi for being obedient, good at cooking, likes to read, and has a wide range of knowledge… After listening to my friend’s words, I felt very good in my heart. Complex, as if relieved: it turns out that they also have shortcomings; but also feeling a little disappointed: the idol has collapsed; and at the same time, I feel relieved: Xiaoxi turns out to have so many advantages. Nuo Xi’s mother, I have been what many relatives, friends, and even adults from all over the country call me “other people’s children” since I was a child: I have good grades and am the first girl in my small village to go to junior high school; I am diligent and work very hard to help my parents during winter and summer vacations. , leading all the children in the village to go to the mountains and fields together; frugal and able to endure hardships… My aunt\’s cousin from the next village told me that since she was a child, her parents often mentioned me and asked her to learn from me, which made her ears prick. . My cousin also works in Shanghai now, and occasionally comes to our house for get-togethers during holidays. The last time we came here, we talked about our rebellious history in middle school because of Xiaoxi\’s rebellion. After hearing a lot of my dark history, my cousin said, \”I didn\’t expect you to have been so dark. If my parents knew this, they would definitely not set you as my role model.\” She looked a little angry. I couldn\’t help but smile at the unfair look. Just as we always report good news but not bad news to our parents far away, we often only show our good side to our friends, so our circle of friends is full of positive energy. In fact, what we see about other people\’s lives is not all of them, just the part they are willing to show you. It is our tradition that \”family scandals should not be made public\”, so most people look glamorous to outsiders. If you don\’t get close to or even walk into them, you won\’t know that they also have their own difficulties and sufferings. Therefore, don’t always think that other people’s children are good or bad, and be critical of your own children. Just like every family has its own scriptures that are difficult to recite, every child has his or her own strengths and weaknesses. It is extremely unfair to compare the strengths of other people\’s children with the weaknesses of your own. Every life is unique. Some children are like a flower, and some children are like a tree. Don\’t use the freshness and beauty of a flower to ask for a tree, and don\’t use the tallness and strength of a tree to ask for a tree. Ask for a flower. It’s a flower, just wait for it to bloom! It\’s a tree, just wait for it to grow taller! Please be proud of your child! Because he is also what others call \”other people\’s children\”!