Your child likes to lose his temper? Read this amazing picture book

A mother asked me: \”My child is two and a half years old and has a very bad temper. For example, when he plays with other children and wants other people\’s toys, and they refuse, he will cry and make a fuss, waiting for the child to hand the toy to him. When he brought it over, he smashed it! What should I do if he is so young and has such a bad temper?\” This question suddenly reminded me of the picture book \”Feifei is Angry\”. So, today we will use this picture book to get to know each other. Anger in children and how to help children deal with it. Everyone has experienced very, very angry emotions, that kind of state where you want to explode, are about to explode, but are afraid of exploding. At that time, I felt that I was the center of the world, a volcano ready to explode, which not only made people angry, but even made people despair. Starting around four months old, babies begin to express this very intense emotion: anger. For example, babies can become irritated when their desire to breastfeed is not immediately met. As the months go by, the frequency of anger gradually increases. People often think of anger as a bad emotion. Most parents will be nervous and at a loss when they see their children getting angry. Especially in front of outsiders, they will feel that they have lost their face. So in order to eliminate their children\’s emotions, they will meet any of their children\’s needs without any principles. Some parents They even forcibly suppress the child\’s anger and do not allow the child to express anger. In fact, anger is an inevitable and indispensable emotion for human beings. The most basic anger comes from when we feel that our survival or safety is threatened, which causes violent reactions, ranging from physical to psychological. Drastic changes, this is an instinct of self-preservation. From the perspective of children\’s psychological development, the more they experience their own emotions, the more mature their mental development will be. Every experience of strong emotions is a valuable experience. Therefore, when a child is angry and angry, we cannot violently suppress his anger, but we must accept his emotions and allow him to be angry. At the same time, we need to lead our children to recognize this emotion and help them deal with it correctly. You know, every time a child gets angry, it is the best opportunity for education. Next, let us read this book carefully. [US] Molly Bian Text/Picture Won: Caldecott Silver Medal Charlotte Zolotov Children’s Book Gold Medal Creative background: “When I was a child, whenever I was extremely angry, I would feel like the world The center point is a volcano on the verge of erupting. That state of wanting to erupt, about to erupt, but afraid of erupting is a very scary feeling!\” author Molly Bian said when recalling her childhood experience. Based on such memories, she created \”Feifei is Angry – Very, Very Angry\”, which points to the most difficult lesson for every child to learn when growing up: how to control and deal with emotions. There is a gorilla sitting on a car on the title page of the book. What does it foreshadow? Feifei was having fun…my sister snatched the toy gorilla away. (It\’s my turn. – Sister) On the left page, the background is a large piece of quiet and peaceful green, and the lines of Feifei\’s body are orange. At this time, everything seems very calm. On the right page, the floor suddenly turned red.The diagonal shape indicates that a conflict is about to occur; the lines on Feifei\’s body also turn red, indicating that anger has been ignited; and the gorilla is outlined with eye-catching golden zigzags, highlighting that it is the focus of the entire dispute. The rich red lines intertwined with the purple carpet, creating a boiling atmosphere, overlapping with angry emotions and imagination, while the zigzag lines stirred up emotional waves and tremors. \”No!\” Feifei shouted. \”Give it to her!\” Mom said. (No! – Feifei) \”It\’s her turn to play now, Feifei.\” My sister snatched the gorilla away… Feifei fell and fell on the toy truck. The conflict continues to escalate. The big jagged \”NO\” in the upper left corner, as if on fire, Feifei\’s flying straight hair, and her open mouth all tell us that the anger in Feifei\’s heart has spewed out. But how could Feifei overtake her sister who was stronger than her? Feifei fell to the ground, and the kitten standing on the purple carpet also fell to the ground in fright. Oh, Feifei has never been so angry! Feifei\’s nostrils and blue eyes are like a bottomless lake, as if water vapor is evaporating from it; the yellow and brown hair curtains and straight braids are set off against the fiery red. Against the background, the anger that pops out on the page is clear to the reader. She kicked wildly. she screamed. She wants to tear the whole world to pieces. (Tear it apart!! – Feifei) She roared loudly, and red fire spurted out of her roaring mouth. Feifei is now a volcano and is about to erupt. When Feifei gets angry – really really gets angry… I like these consecutive pictures so much! In these three spreads, the author uses large areas of purple and red, different perspectives, and various twisted lines to express the raging anger in Feifei\’s heart. The most interesting thing is that the author really designed the three words \”SMASH\”, \”ROAR\” and \”EXPLODE\” to look like smashing, roaring, and volcanic eruption, making it easy for readers to think that when they are angry, their hearts are not like they are about to erupt. Volcano? Even children who don\’t know how to express emotions will have a strong resonance when seeing such a picture. The author\’s blend of color, composition, and emotional expression in the pictures is truly seamless. …she ran out! (Bang! – Door) She ran and ran and ran until she couldn\’t run anymore. Then, for a moment, she cried. The leaning tree and the bent-over Feifei all looked very tired, which shows how tiring it is to be angry. The tree on the far right in the picture below is straight, and the lines of the tree also transition from red to purple, implying that Feifei\’s mood is gradually improving. She saw rocks and trees and bracken. She heard birds chirping. (哷婷婷-Birds) She walked to an old beech tree and climbed up. The lines of the tree transition from purple to blue, the tone of the entire picture also changes from gray to bright green, and the lines on Feifei\’s body also turn orange. Feifei saw rocks, trees and ferns, and heard birds chirping. In these two pages, both the words and the pictures show that Feifei\’s heart is gradually calming down. She felt the breeze caressing her hair. She looked at the undulating waterWave. Nature soothed her. From close to far, the camera is full of green, the gentle breeze caressing the hair, and the calm and vast sea, all of which soothe Feifei\’s injured heart. And the beach that curves towards Feifei seems to give Feifei a big warm hug. Now, she felt much better. She climbed down from the tree… and walked home. The big tree stopped leaning and everything returned to normal. The house is really warm and smells good. Everyone in the family is happy to see her back. (I\’m back. – Feifei) The golden carpet and red walls make the home feel so warm. At this time, the lines on Feifei\’s body also turned yellow, and her mood had completely improved. Everything is back to normal. The round table, puzzles and text arrangement all show Feifei’s inner peace and completeness. The toy gorilla with jagged lines all over its body also looks so gentle and calm because it is placed on the soft and enveloping sofa. Feifei is no longer angry. (Purring~~-Kitten) The story is over. At first glance, did the colors of this book dazzle you? If you read the interpretation part carefully, you will find that the author is really a master of using colors to express emotional conflicts. The design of this book in terms of color, composition and emotional relationship is superb. People who have studied art will find the mystery. Let’s take a look at the analysis of a picture book researcher: (The first picture of the Chinese version is the same as the English one. The version is slightly different, have you noticed?) The first six pictures, the main color is red, suggesting conflict and anger; the next three pictures are mainly maroon, indicating that Feifei is in a heavy mood at this time; the next six pictures The picture is mainly blue, indicating that Feifei\’s mood has calmed down and stabilized; finally Feifei returns home, and the large areas of yellow and orange represent a lively and warm family atmosphere. Among these pictures, I especially like the picture of Feifei climbing up a tree and looking at the sea. The vast vista picture makes people feel suddenly enlightened. In the book \”Feifei is Angry\”, the author uses intuitive and expressive pictures and concise and concise words to slowly bring readers into Feifei\’s ups and downs of emotional changes. For young children, from this book, they can learn how angry emotions arise, what kind of reactions there are, and how to deal with such emotions. Because in this book, the incident that makes Feifei angry is the most common experience for young children – fighting for toys, and the pictures in the book are highly concrete expressions of emotions, which can easily trigger children\’s associations with their own experiences. . In this way, children can refer to the characters in the story from an objective perspective and have an intuitive understanding of the multiple emotions they are confused and afraid of. In addition to understanding emotions, children also learn how to regulate them. From the perspective of picture book creation, \”imagination\” is the only bridge between readers and authors. The children\’s imagination is inspired by the picture world in the book, and they witness the emotional adjustment process of other children. At the same time, they see themselves like looking in a mirror, and understand that the feeling of anger will eventually disappear, and all emotional changes will occur.The process is natural and normal, which gives the child a sense of security and the encouragement to face emotional changes bravely. For parents, picture books can also inspire imagination and understand the development process of children\’s anger. At the same time, we can see that during the entire process from Feifei\’s anger to calmness, her parents did nothing, no evaluation, no comfort, no scolding (in fact, when the child was in an angry mood, all adults\’ words and behaviors are invalid), they just gave Feifei a space to fully release her emotions. Parents who seem to do nothing are actually the wisest and most understanding parents. Managing by doing nothing is the hardest thing to do. Today\’s parents usually don\’t do too little to treat their children, but do too much.