Your child’s future is hidden in your attitude towards life.

I work in a government agency. Our unit is a division-level unit. According to the setup of a division-level unit, there are no restrictions on the number of positions below the department level. This means that every established cadre can basically be promoted to the full department level after reaching a certain number of years. If you want to be promoted to a department level, it depends on your career luck. Many old colleagues in the unit are still at the senior level even after retirement. There are two types of official department levels: those who hold leadership positions are section chiefs, who manage the daily work of a department; those who hold non-leadership positions are chief section members, who follow the instructions of the section chief to do work in the department. Although the work content is different, because they are at the same level, the wages are similar, with only a few dozen yuan difference. In today\’s price range, these tens of dollars are really negligible. There are two cadres in the Comprehensive Management Department of our unit – Section Chief Zhou and Chief Section Member Lao Yang. They were born in the same year and are both almost 50 years old now. The work tasks of the Comprehensive Management Department are very heavy, and they undertake most of the performance evaluation work of our unit by the superior departments. There are only five people in the Comprehensive Treatment Department. In addition to Section Chief Zhou and Lao Yang, there are also three young people who have only been in the unit for two or three years. There is a serious age gap. Therefore, Section Chief Zhou leads the work to complete the annual target work. Section Chief Zhou has been working in his position for many years. Although he is almost 50 years old, he is still dedicated and diligent. The work tasks are very heavy every year, and Section Chief Zhou is busy from the beginning to the end of the year. Make plans at the beginning of the year, supervise various business trips and report at meetings during the year, and summarize at the end of the year. For some key tasks, the young people in the department will not be able to handle them for a while, so Section Chief Zhou has to work overtime to complete them. Sometimes he even works overtime at night and on weekends. Lao Yang is also in the comprehensive treatment department. While Corey\’s people are too busy to touch the ground, he is always relaxed and leisurely. During work hours, I eat peanuts and melon seeds, read the Internet, and even watch TV series. He is relaxed and leisurely every day, and he is in a good mood. When we have something to do, he will chat with you for a while and have a good time. Don\’t say there\’s no job assigned to him. Arrangements were made for him, but he always shied away with various reasons. He really couldn\’t put it down and took over, and the completion was so unsatisfactory that the leaders did not dare to give him the work. That\’s what the government is like. If you don\’t want to work, the boss can\’t do anything to you. At the end of the year, I go to each department to collect everyone’s annual work summary. Compared with Section Chief Zhou\’s detailed and sufficient work summary, Lao Yang\’s only contains a few lines. I said jokingly: \”Director Yang, don\’t just work and not report. You can write more summaries.\” Lao Yang shook his head: \”No matter how much you write, it\’s useless. It\’s not necessary.\” Lao Yang probably understood it already. . Lao Yang has always scorned Section Chief Zhou who was busy day and night. Once, several people from the unit had a dinner together, but Section Chief Zhou did not attend. After a few glasses of wine, Lao Yang told us with disdain: This Lao Zhou works too hard. Look, after working hard for so many years, my hair has turned so gray. What’s the use? Isn’t my salary almost the same as mine? Thinking that Section Chief Zhou\’s hair was originally a bit white, but it seems to have become even whiter recently, we couldn\’t help but feel that Lao Yang\’s words made sense. Everyone understands that after a certain age, the hope of advancement isVery small. Then what\’s the use of working so hard if you can\’t get promoted. It\’s really better to live a leisurely and comfortable life like Lao Yang. It wasn\’t until one day when I was tallying up the family situation of each cadre that I discovered: Section Chief Zhou and Lao Yang each have a son who is similar in age and both are in college. Section Chief Zhou\’s son is studying at a famous 985 university in China, while Lao Yang\’s son is studying at an inconspicuous junior college in this city. Two children from the same family background are so different. It turns out that the difference between Section Chief Zhou and Lao Yang is really not just the tens of dollars in salary. Some things, you only see the surface, and use a ruler to measure whether they are worth it or not. However, at a deeper level, you have already built a watershed and opened a chasm-like gap. If you think about it carefully, it is not difficult to understand: Section Chief Zhou has consistently taken his work seriously for decades. His children will unconsciously learn their father\’s serious attitude and that kind of attitude through daily exposure. Perseverance. And Lao Yang\’s children, who grew up with their father\’s always lazy attitude and listened to his father\’s triumphant indoctrination of \”do more and do less\”, how could they know how to study hard? My home is in a rural suburb of a third-tier city. After 2000, the area where my home is located has been vigorously developed by the government. The villagers who originally had to go out to work suddenly lived a comfortable life relying on the fields and properties left by their ancestors. Some families were demolished as they wished and received a large amount of compensation for demolition. Although some homes have not been demolished, self-built houses on bustling roads can still earn high rents. Everyone thinks that if the rent collected at home is higher than the salary at work, why bother working so hard? With this idea, more and more villagers began to gather to play cards and have fun. Some people, who are only thirty or forty years old and are young and strong, are already living a life of retirement. They often secretly laugh at the out-of-towners who rent their houses. Alas, they have to work so hard every day and can\’t make much money. In such an atmosphere, few children in the village are serious about studying. They imitate their parents, idle around, brag and compare, and are keen on going to Internet cafes to play games. The adults in the village didn\’t think there was anything wrong with it. As long as the children can study and study, it doesn\’t matter if they can\’t. In the future, there is no need for the children to work hard anywhere. They can just stay at home to take care of their parents and collect rent. Life goes by day by day, and there are more and more young people in the village who are not doing their jobs properly. When I went back to my hometown last year, I heard that a former elementary school classmate of mine started taking drugs two years ago. His family was originally quite wealthy, but he lost most of their money after taking drugs. In desperation, his family sent him to a drug rehabilitation center. In addition to him, there are several young people in the village who are addicted to drugs. An old man in the village kept sighing and said: These young people are ruined in their lives. On his eldest son\’s first birthday, Hong Kong star Nicholas Tse edited the film footage he risked his life into into a video and gave it to his son as a birthday gift. He didn\’t tell his son that he could spend whatever money his father earned. But tell him, look, dadHow hard and hard you work to earn such a prosperous life. He believes that parents’ hard work is a spiritual asset that is more valuable than money and worth passing on to children. Rich celebrities value the meaning of hard work so much, let alone ordinary people like us? If parents always insist on striving to make progress, they will naturally pass on to their children a positive and hard-working life value. And if parents are lazy and unwilling to make progress, even if the material benefits they receive are no less than those of diligent people, they will also invisibly pass on this lack of progress to their children. Your child\’s future is hidden in your attitude towards life. In your life of ease and enjoyment, you have already set a very bad example for your children. No matter how much you scold your children to study hard, your children have already learned your lack of motivation from your words and deeds. Therefore, if you want your children to become hard-working and motivated people in the future, you must first make yourself a hard-working and motivated parent. Don\’t ruin your child\’s entire future in your life of ease and enjoyment.