Zeng Guofan’s family motto: A young man cannot endure good times; a middle-aged man cannot endure leisure; and an old man cannot endure adversity.

Zeng Guofan, a famous official in the late Qing Dynasty, once wrote: \”Youth cannot endure good times, middle age cannot endure leisure, and old age cannot endure adversity.\” If we think about this life carefully, it seems that no one can escape this law. All 12 volumes of the complete works of Zeng Guofan from the Hundred Lecture Forums can be downloaded from epub. When people were young, they often thought that \”smooth sailing\” was the best situation in life. Later, they discovered that all the gifts in life have been secretly marked with a price; after passing through middle age, I like to live a leisurely life, but over time I find that the longer I am idle, the more I worry; when I enter my old age, a storm will break all the peace in life, and then I understand that contentment and constant happiness are a great blessing in life. No matter what age you are or what situation you are in, don’t forget: cultivate your own state of mind. I watched a program some time ago, and one of the guests was the actor Song Dandan. She said something in the interview that makes sense: \”Young success is the same thing as being widowed in middle age or being widowed in old age. It\’s too early. When you don\’t understand what life is about, you It is a very bad thing to gain too much if you go too smoothly.\” Seeing this passage, I can\’t help but think of Wei Yongkang, the talented young man who was hotly discussed before. Wei Yongkang has been extremely talented since he was a child. He mastered more than a thousand Chinese characters at the age of 2. He completed junior high school courses by himself at the age of 4. When he was 8 years old, he skipped several levels to enter a key middle school. At the age of 13, he was admitted to Xiangtan University with high scores. At the age of 17, Admitted to the Chinese Academy of Sciences for combined master\’s and doctoral studies. When he was 20 years old, Wei Yongkang, who had been studying for graduate school for three years, was persuaded to return home by the Chinese Academy of Sciences because he was \”unable to take care of himself and his knowledge structure was not suitable for him.\” After he dropped out of school, his mother, Zeng Xuemei, began to reflect on her own education. It turned out that in order for him to focus entirely on his studies, Zeng Xuemei rarely let Wei Yongkang go out, and took care of all the big and small things in his life, including washing clothes, bathing, washing his face, and even feeding him meals. While studying at Xiangtan University, Zeng Xuemei also went to \”accompany him to study\” and take care of his son\’s diet and daily life. Except for studying, Wei Yongkang had almost no independent life. As a result, during his graduate school period, he couldn\’t dress well, was late for class, lacked basic common sense, and couldn\’t communicate with classmates and tutors. His life was a mess. When I was young, I ran too fast, and the wind and water were too smooth along the way. I didn\’t climb the mountains that I should climb, and I didn\’t cross the rivers that I should cross. One day I have to walk this road again. \”A young man who is too ambitious will easily fall into trouble.\” It is never an empty saying. The writer Zweig has a description in \”The Severed Queen\”: \”She realized that fate was too partial to herself. She had a smooth journey, and good luck followed one after another. Until she needed to use her talents and abilities to save her own life and that of her children. , she realized that her life had been empty and pale, and she had never accumulated any strength to fight against adversity.\” In a person\’s life, growth at every stage is essential. If you want to obtain the true scripture, ninety-nine and eighty-one It’s hard to live without one. Just like tea leaves, only after being exposed to wind, sun and rain, being stir-fried in an iron pot, and soaked in boiling water can the true aroma of tea be brewed. Middle-aged people cannot stand leisure. Romain Rolland once said: \”The heaviest burden in life is not work, but boredom.\” After half a life, I have experienced ups and downs and found that this is indeed the case. Take some time off,It will make a person lose his fighting spirit. If he is idle for too long, his life will lose its meaning. I heard a story about Zeng Guofan: Zeng Guofan lived a relatively leisurely time in the Hanlin Academy. At the beginning, he was like other people, eating and drinking in his spare time and doing nothing. Until one day, he suddenly discovered: Those with great ambitions should not be like this. Later, he began to make full use of his spare time to supplement the knowledge he lacked, and read more to explore the secrets of writing articles. Keep writing a diary every day, check and reflect on your daily words and deeds, and make a \”Twelve Daily Lessons\” plan to improve yourself. He was not idle even in middle age. He established the Hunan Army when he was 40 years old, and took charge of Westernization in his 50s, promoting his career while cultivating himself. As the old saying goes: middle-aged people cannot afford to be idle. In life, no one can escape the test of mid-life crisis. Only by getting busy can the crisis be overcome as soon as possible. Staying idle will only speed up the onset of crisis and intensify the imprint of mid-life crisis on life. In a leisurely environment, there are more and more worries, more and more quarrels, and the body will become worse and worse. When you live a life that is too comfortable, you lose not only your energy but also your love for life. Someone asked on Zhihu: What is the greatest sorrow of middle-aged people? One answer is very heartbreaking: I have too little time and no money. The older you get, the more you should cherish the nutrients in life. Don\’t waste the flowers that have bloomed in your heart because of temporary happiness, and don\’t let the flowers wither too quickly. There is a widely circulated sentence on the Internet: “If you use your leisure time to play mahjong, you will become a gambler; if you use your leisure time to do social services, you may become a social reformer; if you use your leisure time to do social services, you may become a social reformer; if you use your leisure time to do social services, you may become a social reformer; Study history and you may become a historian.\” After middle age, your life depends on you. I can\’t stand adversity in my later years. Not long ago, I saw the writer Li Xiaoyi talking about his personal experience. When she was young, she experienced unemployment once. At that time, she interpreted happiness as \”having\”: having money, a house, and a career. So she desperately searched for various job opportunities, wrote books, and held reading meetings all over the country. When she was forty years old, she fell ill due to overwork, and then she realized that happiness is actually \”nothing\”: no worries, no worries, no diseases, no disasters. Because the \”haves\” in life are all for others to see, and only the \”nothings\” are truly for yourself. Everyone lives in this world at his own pace. In terms of health, I see my friends staying up late at night and drinking every day, but my body may not be able to withstand such a \”rhythm.\” After an elder in the family retired, he wanted to make more money, so he used the savings he had accumulated from working over the years to speculate in the stock market. Because I was worried that my children would not agree, I learned to trade stocks by myself without telling anyone. Who would have thought that it didn\’t take long for him to lose all his savings and owe a large amount of foreign debt. He was so angry that he suffered a heart attack and had to be hospitalized. Mentioning this matter, the elder said with emotion: \”People still have to stop when it is time to stop and force themselves to do things that are not suitable for them. The final result is to destroy a lifetime of hard work.\” As the saying goes: \”The contented person\” People who are poor and humble are happy, but those who are dissatisfied are also worried about wealth.\” As we enter our sixtieth year, we should understand the value of \”being content and always happy\”. No one’s life is roundIf you are full, cherish what you have got, and don’t worry about what you haven’t got yet. Having a good mentality and a healthy body are the most precious gifts for people in their old age. I really like Lin Qingxuan’s summary of life: [Collection] Libo Baijia Lecture Forum Zeng Guofan’s Complete Works 27 Lectures MP4+MP3 “If the tea is similar, the taste does not have to be the same. As for tea, one brew is bitter, the second brew is sweet, and the third brew is strong. Heavy, the fourth brew is refreshing, the fifth brew is light, and from then on, no matter how good the tea is, it will be tasteless. It is like the five flavors of life, youth is green, youth is mellow, middle age is strong, old age is sweet, and old age is tasteless.\” People live forever, no matter where they go. No matter what stage you reach, you must be yourself in order to truly feel the taste of life. Don\’t be happy when times are good, don\’t get carried away, stay calm; don\’t stop when times are good, just keep walking; don\’t worry about adversity, don\’t be discouraged, just keep your head high.